Today I watched a very touching video about a mother who gave up her dreams of becoming a pro athlete so that she could raise her son.
And it got me wondering…
How often do we give up on our dreams (big or small)?
When I'm really honest with myself, every day I'm letting some of my dreams slide by.
Part of me is unconsciously aware of this. And occasionally it rises to my conscious surface like it did this last weekend.
I was networking with several of my friends (including Mary Morrissey's son Mat) & colleagues about how to serve you more effectively. During a lull, I wrote myself a simple question on a piece of paper:
"What is the reason why I am not accomplishing as much as I know I'm capable of?"
The answer surprised me…
So I asked myself…
"What am I scared of?"
First was a temporary lack of income. A part of me is scared that if I truly follow ALL of what I know my heart wants to create, that it means sacrificing some short-term income for long-term goals (that my mind believes are "less predictable" than the short-term income).
I asked myself again…
"What am I scared of?"
Then the REAL answer hit me.
See, I'm a single full-time father. I work when my son is at school and then I stop working. And while that is an amazing opportunity to be a great father, like all choices, it has an opportunity cost.
The voice inside me simply said:
"I'm scared that my son would feel abandoned."
(because the belief is that I'd have to work more and therefore have less time for my son)
That hit me like a ton of bricks. I had already known that part of the reason I didn't work as much as I could was to be there for my son.
My fear though, specifically, is that he'd feel abandoned. He'd feel like I wasn't a "good enough" father. That someday instead of thanking me for how I was always there for him, he'd resent me for not being there enough.
Anybody who knows me intimately would be surprised by that answer since I truly am a great father.
But the simple fact is that my mind was TRAPPED. And I didn't even see the trap until yesterday when I started looking deeper for the truth.
Maybe you're like me and wish to create more in your life?
Perhaps your dream is reaching a new level of financial abundance, elevating your health and fitness, pursuing your dream job or dream business, moving to a new city, traveling the world, finding your soulmate, or up-leveling and deepening your relationships?
But no matter how much of your precious time, money or emotional energy you put into trying to make your dream come true, you just stayed stuck right where you were?
Yeah. I hear you. Been there. Am there. Been that. Was doing that.
And I'm changing it because that I *KNOW* what's up.
You can too.
When you put so much effort towards making one of your dreams come true, but you're unable to create the results you want… this can leave you feeling frustrated, disappointed… and sometimes even embarrassed.
I know I've felt this way before. And as you can see, occasionally I still do.
The above video is the 2nd one from Mary Morrissey in her DreamBuilder video training series. After you watch Mary's video above you'll finally understand what was REALLY blocking your dream from becoming your reality (it's usually 1 of 3 things)…
And you'll know exactly how to avoid these "dream traps" when pursuing your dreams in the future. 🙂
Unstoppable in achieving our dreams…
Unstoppable in living up to our greatest potential…
And unstoppably happy. 🙂
I'm sure you've heard the saying "you can't have your cake and eat it too."
I think it's bullshit.
But until we train our minds, bodies, and spirits to go for our dreams then we'll never see past the illusion. We'll just stay stuck in limitation, lack, and frustration.
I refuse to stay trapped and stuck. It's just not worth the stress. Maybe you agree?
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