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Stuck In An Abusive Relationship

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A lady goes to work at a large department store and she's friends with somebody in a another department who she doesn't know very well, but is drawn to her. You know how you can just meet somebody and like them immediately.

But over a short period of time this one lady begins to notice that the other lady is getting more and more solemn and depressed. And finally, even though they have never really spoken, she walks over and says:

"Hi. I'm Ruth and we smile at each other from time to time. I hope I'm not prying into your life, but I could tell that something is wrong. Would you mind sharing it with me? Maybe it would be better if we talked about it."

"Yeah, I'll tell you what the deal is. I'm stuck in an abusive relationship."

"Oh," Ruth says, "listen to me. Don't you put up with it for one second. Don't you stay in any abusive relationship. No matter what, don't you stick with it."

"No, I don't think you understand," says the other lady…

"You see, I live all by myself. And there's nobody else in my life but me."

This story is from one of my spiritual teachers, Guy Finley. He's a true master storyteller, and one of the things I love about his programs is that he uses the power of stories to show us deep truths about ourselves.

Read on for another story from him…


And before you do, this is just a quick reminder that on Monday I shared with you his "Breaking Dependency" program and a lot of people are already enjoying it.

It's all about how we can break our unwanted habits…

Whether it's alcohol, smoking, drugs, gambling, overeating, harmful relationship patterns, overindulgence in sex, incessant anxiety, impulsive spending, insatiable ambition, fear of failure, chronic clutter, procrastination…

Literally any habit at all that you want to be free from.

Click Here To Learn more About "Breaking Dependency"



And now for "This Time It'll Be Different…"

There are two friends and one of them is a traveling salesman who has to go out on the road every two or three weeks and sometimes he's even gone for 3 months at a time. After one of these lengthy trips, he comes back and he drives back into his little city, and while driving he sees a sign over a store that says 'Custom cabinets by Curt.'

"That's Curt's place. Custom cabinets? What in the heck's going on?" he thinks to himself. So he stops the car and he walks in and says, "Curt. Since when did you become a maker of custom cabinets?"

Curt looks at him and says, "Well, you know. I did try for a while making custom chairs, as you know when you left, but it just didn't work out so well."

"Well why not, Curt? Didn't have any business?"

Curt says, "Well, I guess you can say that."

"Well, what do you mean 'I guess?'"

"I discovered I don't have any woodworking skills.

His friend slaps himself on the forehead and says, "But Curt. To build custom cabinets takes woodworking skills."

Curt looks at his friend like he's stupid, and he says, "Yeah. But this time I'm hoping that things will be different."



If any part of you is hoping "this time it will be different" then check out Guy's "Breaking Dependency" program. It's very reasonably priced, and you're sure to get some great insights out of it. :)

I've loved Guy's stories for over half a decade – and I am always grateful to share his work with others. Since I've got this one loaded on my phone, I'm going to give it another listen.

** Click Here To Start "Breaking Dependency" **
4 Simple Steps to Overcoming Procrastination

4 Simple Steps to Overcome Procrastination

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

For so long I identified with being a "Reluctant Hero." Life threw me curveballs, and I'd hit home runs. That worked well except for one fundamental problem…

In order to thrive, I had to be put through difficult tests. I hadn't developed the capacity to forge ahead in life fiercelessly. I was always waiting for external circumstances to force me to change.

And they did.

There was literally a major event that had to happen before I could know what it meant to truly live. I had to be severely betrayed and traumatized to understand the real risks of reluctance.

Until that incident, I didn't realize that my reluctance was costing me my life. I held myself back in almost every way.

Nobody could see it from the outside. I was succeeding like I always did. It seemed like anything I touched turned to gold. Outside, everybody saw the hero. Inside though, I was dying a slow death.

My true potential was withering away. Reluctance was costing me happiness and my well-being. Unconsciously, I was scared that if I went for what I really wanted, I would be crushed if I didn't get it. In relationships, I settled for the tattered remains of broken hearts because it felt safer than the risk of a painful rejection.

The thing is, I didn't realize how much of my reluctance had nothing to do with others and everything to do with myself. When we get right down to it, most reluctance is a cover for how we reject our inner experiences.

What we do is identify with our limited ways of being. By holding onto the familiar state of reluctance, we quietly reject our incredible potential. In most situations, hiding behind our reluctance feels safer than possibly opening up the pain of old wounds, and even scarier, taking risks that could give us new ones. The reluctance prevents us from making the necessary changes we need to live a fulfilling life.

The thing is, there's never going to be a better time to make changes than now.

"Sometime" is never going to come as long as you're waiting for something outside of yourself to happen.

Harriet Beecher Stowe supposedly wrote Uncle Tom's Cabin with just 10 minutes a day. Chris Gardner was homeless and shirtless when he showed up for an interview at a prestigious investment firm. And neither of those people sat and waited for life to happen to them. They engaged their dreams while living their very full and challenging lives. They also did it one step at a time.

You can too.

The key is to break your reluctance down into such small steps that it takes more effort for you to stand still than it does for you to take action.

Here's a quick 4-step process you can use to make this happen:

  1. Next time you find yourself thinking, "if only" or "I will do it after this other thing happens," write down exactly what it is you want and what you're expecting to happen before you can have what you want.
     
  2. For each item you listed, write down why you as many ways you can think of that it might be possible, even if "the other thing" you're waiting for never happens.
     
  3. Look at your list and find the easiest or fastest thing you can do. Then go do it.
     
  4. Repeat step 3 as much as you can.

By following this simple process, you'll force your mind into a creative problem-solving action mindset. You'll also create momentum that will progressively reprogram your mind to take action proactively.

So what Will You Do With Your Future? :)

Star Light, Star Bright

Star Light, Star Bright (The NEW Version)

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A few weeks ago while I was walking outside at night, I did as I always do…

I looked up at the Heavens and began my silent prayer: "Star Light, Star Bright… First Star I See Tonight."

In mid-prayer, I remembered something that Napoleon Hill had written in his virtually unknown book, "Outwitting the Devil."

**NOTE: If you haven't heard of this book of his from 1938 (just after he wrote "Think And Grow Rich," it's because until 2012 Hill and his successors BARRED anybody from ever publishing it. It was believed to be too controversial, and the insights shared might be too threatening to our society.

The whole book is a dialogue in which Napoleon Hill manages to get the Truth out of the Devil… so that Hill and everyone who comes into contact with him, can use it against the Devil… to outwit the devil.

Or in other words, to live an amazing life. :) In the book, there's a passage about prayer which really got me thinking:


"Since becoming better acquainted with my 'other self,' my way of praying is different from what it was before. I used to go to prayer only when facing difficulty. Now I go to prayer before difficulty overtakes me, when possible. I now pray, not for more of this world's goods and greater blessings, but to be worthy of that which I already have. I find that this plan is better than the old one.

“Infinite Intelligence seems not at all offended when I give thanks and show that I am grateful for the blessings which have crowned my efforts. I was astounded, when I first tried this plan of offering a prayer of thanks for what I already possessed, to discover what a vast fortune I had owned without being appreciative of it.”

Outwitting the Devil



There's a lot somebody can take away from that passage (and all of Outwitting the Devil) and apply to his or her own life.

For me, I took it in a slightly different direction and it's affected my "Star Light" prayer 100%.

Here's my new version…

"Star Light, Star Bright.
First Star I See Tonight.
Wish I May. Wish I Might.
Give This Wish I Wish Tonight."


Image © Depositphotos.com/hasloo

What If Your Intuition Is All f*$#@d Up?

What If Your Intuition Is All F*$#@d Up?

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Wendy wrote me the other day asking…

"Here's something for you a lot of coaches don't address:

A lot of coaches talk about developing your intuition as if the only thing stopping you from using it is your ability to hear it. But what if your intuition is, well, detuned? As in, when something inside you urges you to a particular course of action, logic tells you something else (or nothing at all), and it turns out to be the wrong course?"

When I was in the corporate world, I was heavily involved in software testing at one point. For years, my job was to do two things:

(1) See if software worked the way it was supposed to

(2) Try to break software by doing everything it's not supposed to

I approach personal development the same way. I test stuff. I see what works. I see what doesn't. Then I relay what I learn to you.

This way you're not getting "hand-me-down" teachings, you're getting the benefit of my direct experience.

More importantly than that, though, I encourage you to test what works for you in your own life. That's because no matter how much I test teachings, what I test is through my lens of experience.

And the greatest gift you can give yourself is seeing what is true for YOU. Uniquely you.

With this perspective in mind, my advice to Wendy is simply this:

Keep a journal. Every time you hear your intuition, take note of what you hear. Then take an action. See if the action produces the results in alignment with your intuition.

The reason this is so important is because every sense we have (including our 6th sense) is filtered through the lens of our Being. Our physical and psychological filters control what we see.

This is a literal fact. Perception is determined by our brains. Our eyes have blind spots and our mind fills them in (I show this unquestionably in one of my Liberate Your Life exercises).

Therefore, it's entirely possible that what you *think* is your intuition, is in fact, "detuned" or just entirely f*$#@d up. By keeping a journal, you begin to sort out what is actually true for you.

For example, how did I learn to trust my intuition?

In my early 20's, it would tell me things that were not logical. My mind rebelled and would do the opposite. Every time I listened to my mind and silenced my intuition (even though I didn't know "what" it was), I got totally screwed over.

Bad stuff happened when I didn't listen to my intuition. So I got the message and realized to just listen to it, even if it didn't make sense to me.

That was my experience. Yours may be different. Don't take my word for ANY of this. Don't take my word for anything. Just take what I say with a grain of salt and then ruthlessly test it yourself.

Hard Times

Hard Times

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A man was selling oranges in the middle of a road. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers. He put some signs along the road and spent the whole day praising the flavor of his wares.

Everyone bought from him and the man thrived. With the money he placed more signs on the road and began to sell more fruit. Business was growing fast!

One day his son – who was educated and had studied in a big city – asked him:

"Father, don't you know that the world is going through very hard times? The economy of the country is in an awful state!"

Worried by this, the man reduced the number of signs and began to sell fruit of inferior quality because it was cheaper. Sales slumped immediately.

"My son is right," he thought. "Times are very hard."

– Thanks for this storie goes to Paulo Coelho, NY Times best-selling author of The Alchemist, and whose books have sold over 150 million copies worldwide

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That there has to be more to life than this?

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Paulo Coelho recently wrote this about it…

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Have you ever asked yourself these questions?

Why do I feel so overwhelmed?

Why aren't I happier and more fulfilled?

Why do I procrastinate and never seem to move forward?

What am I doing wrong?

If so, this new book is for people like you who recognize that personal development training just isn't enough. You've realized that you need to go to a deeper level to discover the purpose of your life and create a life that feels meaningful.

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"I Don't Like You!" :)

“I Don’t Like You!” :)

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

No, I'm not talking about you personally…

(that's why I put a smiley face in the subject line of this email)

"I don't like you!" is the phrase I utter whenever my ego is presented with information that -it- doesn't like…

Information that will change my perspective on myself.

Sure my heart and spirit love those transformational moments. And I love the people who elicit and support those moments in me. Those 'ahas.'

My ego, on the other hand…

Does not. And I had one of those "I don like you!" moments on Friday after taking a short quiz from my friend Paul Hoffman.

Click Here To Take The 'Money Blocks' Quiz I'm Referring To

See, I consider myself pretty even-keel when it comes to money. While I'm not super rich, I really don't have a lot of money blocks in my life. I have enough that my life is comfortable right now and for that I am grateful.

So when I went to take Paul's quiz, I was quietly thinking to myself, "I'll ace this one. I've got it covered."

As if it were somehow a test to be passed?

Suuuure…. :)

Well, at first I felt right. With each passing question, I thought, "Yeah, I see how that could have affected people adversely. How that childhood experience could create a negative belief around money. And fortunately, that wasn't my experience."

Then…

BOOM.

A couple of questions landed that put my ego in check. An immediately I thought to myself…

"I don't like you, Paul!"

Nevermind that I really do like him. We've spent some time together over the last year, and though we live hundreds of miles apart, had a really tasty and healthy dinner together a few months back. I saw him again last month and we shared a good hug.

So as I'm sure you can see, it's nothing personal I've got against Paul. He's a great guy, creating great products, and an insightful money quiz that blindsided me.

According to Paul, if you're not making as much money as you'd like…

Or if you're drowning in debt…

Or if you just can’t seem to get ahead…

Then chances are you're *unconsciously* telling yourself one of 3 "Deadly Money Incantations" that is blocking you from experiencing the financial abundance that you want.

See Which Of Your Beliefs Is Limiting Your Abundance

A "Deadly Money Incantation" is simply any negative limiting belief about money that you persistently tell yourself on an ongoing basis (consciously or unconsciously).

Chances are, you absorbed it from what you saw and experienced as a child. And unfortunately, you may have been repeating it to yourself over and over again on a subconscious level for so long that you eventually just 'charm' yourself into believing is true.

As you know, our beliefs become our reality. That's a double-edged sword, and the good news is that awareness is our greatest gift and power as human beings.

And once you know what these 3 Deadly Money Incantations are (including the one that’s most affecting you right now), they immediately being losing their hold on you – so that the money you desire and deserve can finally begin flowing into your life in surprising and miraculous ways. :)

After you take Paul's 'Money Blocks' quiz, I hope you find the free customized video report you get as insightful as I did mine. :)

How To Brainwash Yourself In 3 Simple Steps

How To Brainwash Yourself In 3 Simple Steps!

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

STEP 1
~~~~~~
Select your preferred *brainwashing by clicking the link below:

Begin Your Brainwashing Here

You'll be able to choose from the following *brainwashing options:

  1. The Law of Attraction
  2. Feel Happy Now
  3. Reinvent Yourself
  4. Eliminate Stress
  5. Bounce Back from Burnout
  6. Achieve Your Goals

STEP 2
~~~~~~
Enter your email address *AND* check your email.

STEP 3
~~~~~~
Download and listen to your preferred *brainwashing.

That's it! How to brainwash yourself in 3 simple steps. :)

There's no question that companies, governments, and military organizations have used brainwashing for centuries. They've done it to take control of people to make them act against their own personal best interests.

That's old-school brainwashing…

I say, why not use new-school brainwashing to take control of our best selves and improve our lives? :)

Don't Die With Your Music Still Inside You

Don’t Die With Your Music Still Inside You

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Product Recommendations

Today I'm stepping out of my usual zone…

Because, I hardly ever talk about creating and building businesses. However, one thing I've come to learn is that a LOT of people who read my emails are:

  • Life or business coaches (or want to become one)
  • Authors (or want to write a book)
  • Messengers (they want to change the world)

And…

Almost everybody I know wants to increase his or her income. :)

…Especially in ways that are heartful, conscious, in alignment with their natural gifts and talents and passions, and do it with integrity.

Some people are happy to add just $500 extra per month side-income by selling an informational ebook, and that's where I started.

Other people (like who I've become) want to earn their entire livelihood by being of service to others. They want to know what it takes to REALLY share their heart with the world and make a difference.

They don't want to "die with their music still inside them."
 
I can relate, since I made that transition in 2009 from the corporate world into being of service to you full-time. It was one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life.

There isn't a day go by that I am not deeply grateful for that…

Whether it's the time freedom I have to be a full-time father to my son, wake up without an alarm clock (at least when he doesn't have school), or just simply to love the "work" I do and wake up excited and grateful to serve you each and every day.

Unfortunately, there aren't a lot of trustworthy resources that can teach people how to make that transition.

There's lots of scam artists out there, a few people who are "okay," but not a lot of people who have a passion for personal development, serving humanity, have built effective and profitable online businesses, AND can teach this to others.
 
Even fewer teachers can teach this to people who are COMPLETELY NEW to making money online. Fortunately, my friend Dharma is one person who I highly recommend.

Click Here To Meet My Friend Dharma

Click Here To Meet My Friend Dharma
(she almost cries in this video)

I first met Dharma about a year ago and when we chatted in San Diego, she told me that she was creating an entire program to help people go from knowing nothing about creating an online business to being successful.

As soon as she said that, I told her I wanted to know when it was ready so I could share it with others. That's because I know how difficult this topic is to teach, especially to new people, and even moreso to people who want to do it in alignment with their heart's desires.

I knew she was speaking to people exactly like who I once was…

Fortunately, that time has come and she's created a from-the-heart video where she shares how her biggest breakdown became her biggest breakthrough.

I don't want to spoil it…

And this image of her gives you a picture of what kind of life she was living…

Click Here To Meet My Friend Dharma

Has Your Life Ever Felt Like Dharma's Did?

She had a major health crisis, and the advise she received was so "out there" she almost didn't believe it at first. It just didn't make sense in her life.

And yet deep down Dharma knew her life simply wasn't working. Something had to change, or else she was going to lose the rest of what was left of her health.

In the video, Dharma also invites you to join her upcoming introductory web class on exactly how to do what she and I do — earn income from a passion-based business… to serve others, earn income, and ultimately live a happy conscious live while doing that.

During this introductory web class, Dharma is going to be showing you the 6 step system that you can use to make your own online business…

Completely from the ground up.

In other words, even if you've never written a thing in your life, never created any kind of business, he will show you how to transform your inner knowledge into outer wealth.
 
FIRST A WARNING THOUGH…

If you actually use and apply what Dharma teaches, your life will change forever. :)

** Click Here And Watch Dharma's Video **

Also remember to download and use the "How to identify your passions" e-Book that Dharma gives you when you register for her web class.

FYI: The web class is also one of the few non-free (sort of) resources that I've shared…

It's really inexpensive, and the way it works is that when you register for the class you enter your credit card info, your card won't be charged. Then after you attend the class finishes your card on file will be charged only if you don't feel you've received at least 10 times the cost of the web class. Your card will not be charged (so the class is free) if you just email Dharma anytime after the class and say not to charge your card.
 

Learning To Just Take It

Learning to “Just Take It” << Should You?

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A lot of us unfortunately have experiences of being "run over." :(

Maybe it's an overbearing boss or parent, perhaps a coach pushing us, or maybe a partner who has unrealistic expectations.

And sometimes we might believe that we should "just take it." We might believe that keeping the peace is better than rocking the boat. Maybe that's true. Maybe it isn't. Only Presence has that answer.

That's not what I'm writing about today though…

Before I get to what I want to say about "just taking it," I have two quick reminders / FYIs for you. :)

<< First >>

TODAY is the 4-hour live teleclass with my friends Bob Doyle, Sonia Ricotti, and other special guests including Bob Proctor, Mark Romero, and Steve G Jones.

They'll be talking about their strategies for living amazing lives and how you can do it too.

Click Here To Register For Today's Teleclass

<< And >>

TOMORROW begins the free 'Genius Code' online program. You'll learn how to access more of your natural brainpower by using some rather unusual and different techniques.

This home study version of this program normally sells for $357 every day, and during this limited-time "try before you buy" event you can listen to the online streaming version completely free. :)

Start Your Free 'Genius Code' Program Today
(lesson #1 is already available for you RIGHT NOW)

Now about "just taking it"…

I remember when I was younger, my self-esteem issues were rampant. They unconsciously controlled just about every social interaction I was in. And I didn't even know it.

And whenever I received a compliment, I always felt compelled to respond by giving a reason for the compliment.

Other: "Wow, the blue in your eyes really stand out today!"

Me: "Yeah that's because of the shirt I'm wearing."

Or…

Other: "I really like your hair today."

Me: "I tried styling it differently using some gel and a trick I learned from the person who cut my hair."

Or…

Other: "I really like the way you treated that homeless person with compassion."

Me: "Everybody has tough times, and I'm glad to be able to help a little bit."

Now all of those examples seem benign normal social interactions.

However, they're MISSING something.

See, in each of them there is an unconscious lack of self-confidence. It might be huge. It might be small. That depends on the person.

How might this be?

In each of those interactions there is an explanation -why- we are the way we are. In those examples, I was trying to *justify* a good quality about myself…

Because deep down I believed that being me simply wasn't "enough."

It wasn't enough for me to just take it and say "Thank you."

No.

Because I felt inadequate, I had to create a reason why the compliment could be "allowed." It wasn't allowed as it was, on its own, simply because another person was appreciating me.

Part of me felt unworthy enough to receive the appreciation. I felt unconsciously "not good enough" to be complimented authentically. I couldn't take it.

And so rather than just saying "Thank you," I had to rationalize (give "rational lies") to cover over my perceived inadequacy.

I share this with you because so many of us don't fully receive compliments from others. We gloss them over.

We don't take them in. We don't allow other peoples' appreciation to personally *affect* us. We have difficulty just being seen and acknowledged for the amazing Divine beings that we are.

It took me years to learn to say "Thank you" when receiving a compliment. Now, however, I always do my best to receive the compliment and let it land with me. No rationalization. No explanation. No reason why.

Just simply receiving the gift that another person has given me.

In your own life, I challenge you…

For the next few days –whenever you receive a compliment– limit your reply to saying "Thank you" with a smile while making eye contact with that person.

Nothing more.

I challenge you to "just take it" and see what you discover. :)

An Afternoon In The Park

An Afternoon In The Park

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

There once was a little boy who wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with Twinkies and a six-pack of root beer and he started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park just staring at some pigeons. The boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase.

He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her a Twinkie. She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him. Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered her a root beer. Once again she smiled at him. The boy was delighted!

They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.

As it grew dark, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave, but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old woman and gave her a hug. She gave him her biggest smile ever.

When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face.

She asked him, “What did you do today that made you so happy?”

He replied, “I had lunch with God.” But before his mother could respond, he added, “You know what? She’s got the most beautiful smile I’ve ever seen!”

Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy, returned to her home.

Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and he asked, “Mother, what did you do today that made you so happy?”

She replied, “I ate Twinkies in the park with God.” But before her son responded, she added, “You know, he’s much younger than I expected.”

~ Author Unknown and Greatly Appreciated

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