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Discover The Gifts Of Your Personality Type

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

Navigating our human complexities can be a beautiful and challenging dance…

No matter how long we've been on a path of growth, we often get stuck in unconscious patterns that don't serve us – or anyone else, for that matter!

And when we get triggered in this way, it can negatively impact our relationships, our health and well-being. Discovering how to work with our core personality patterns in a way that lets us express our unique brilliance is at the heart of living a great life.

That's why I'm grateful to introduce you to a free online event that I am co-sponsoring:

The Enneagram Global Summit

During this LIVE online series, 20 of the world's top Enneagram experts – including my personal spiritual teacher Hameed Ali (co-founder of the "Diamond Approach" school), and others such as David Daniels, Helen Palmer, Russ Hudson, Jessica Dibb, Robert Holden – – all will be sharing powerful insights into how you can apply the Enneagram to transforming your life.

Although the Ennegram was "defined" rather recently, it's actually an ancient wisdom. One of my close friends took a trip to Egypt with Russ Husdon (a teacher of last year's and this year's summits), and while in the pyramids they found evidence of the Ennegram dating back thousands of years.

So it's not new. It's not new age. It's actually a very concrete way of looking at our personalities that empowers us to see our core life challenges and then shift through them into the best versions of ourselves.

Last year's summit was attended by over 12,000 people from over 22 countries. I supported it then. And I'm co-sponsoring it now:

Join This Free Online PsychoSpiritual Learning Event

During spiritual studies with Hameed Ali and other teachers of mine, I've used the Ennegram to help heal aspects of my personality and life I didn't even know needed healing. I've found insights and freedoms that empowered me to no longer look at spiritual work as "work" and instead relax into the gifts that true transformation offers when my ego isn't exclusively "running the show."

During The Enneagram Global Summit – the biggest such event ever held (online and off) – you'll learn how you can apply what has become the world's most influential psychospiritual typing system to discover your true essential nature, dramatically improve your relationships – and experience amazing shifts in ALL areas of your life.

Whether you're new to the Enneagram, or are an expert yourself, the information and guidance in this series can be applied to anyone and everyone. Whatever your experience level, you'll be inspired by the new processes and practices for consciousness in spirituality, business, education, healthcare, cultivating relationships, psychology, coaching, parenting, sexuality, healing our bodies, and more.

Register for The Enneagram Global Summit now to awaken to the gifts of your personality type – and get ready to embark on a journey that promises to super-charge your life. ๐Ÿ™‚

Discover The Gifts Of Your Personality Type

FYI – Here are just a few quotes from last years' participants…

"The Enneagram Global Summit was a rich and beautiful experience on many levels. It provided ways to deepen my understanding of this elegant and complex typology and opened my eyes and heart to new ways of looking at myself and others. What a lovely surprise to be introduced to new and varied approaches to deepening my fundamental understanding of the Enneagram. Thank you for providing the world with such riches for the mind, body and heart."
– Patricia Brill

"I was captivated by the depth and breadth of the perspectives of the different Enneagram experts. I also liked the unity that formed between the speakers. Some speakers would refer to something another speaker said that enlightened them or helped their work, or gave them insights. It was a collective learning ground among experts and novices alike. Everyone benefited! I also appreciated honoring the historical contributors to this field – both learning about them and honoring them. They provided much insight into the evolution of the Enneagram."
– – Cynthia W. Bangs, Hawaii (MA thesis on the Enneagram, 1994)

"If you want to know the depth of the spiritual dimension of the Enneagram, this event [is] IT. So amazingly profound and such a loving and respectful interaction between hosts and guest-speakers."
– Catherine

"I attend a lot of online summits and some are pretty vacuous if not downright cheesy. This was one of the best I've ever experienced, if not *the* best. I felt I was in the company of some really enlightened, actualized, uber-intelligent yet oh-so-beautifully humble and gracious souls, perhaps from my Home Planet. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Jessica was the perfect host, asking the most insightful questions and never trying to oversell the finished product. I feel extremely blessed to have witnessed this (hahaa spoken like a true 5)…. Seriously, thank you all so much for this."
– Gina Dell'Grottaglia, Troy NY

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Neutering Your Negative Thoughts

Neutering Your Negative Thoughts

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Considering I had recurring nightmares as a child about being overrun with ants, I used to have a knack for smashing ants even more quickly than I did spiders. That all changed on the day I found an ant inside, trapped it, observed it for a moment, and then released it outside. The ant then went on its merry way, away from our apartment and back towards the wild.

In that moment, I was reminded of the true power of "Trap, Neuter, and Release" — a program devoted to resolving the problems associated with trapping and killing wild cats. Instead of killing feral animals (due to problems related to overpopulation), the program neuters and then releases back into the wild. Here is a related article excerpt which I think is relevant that I'd like to explore further:

"An estimated sixty million feral cats live in the United States today. Local animal control often try to eliminate them by trapping and killing. This does not work. Instead of reducing their numbers, killing makes room for new cats to move in and the breeding process begins all over again. So does the suffering.

"Half of all kittens born into these colonies die soon after birth. Their mothers spend most of their lives pregnant and hungry. Unneutered tom cats roam across busy roads seeking mates, getting in fights: untreated wounds can eventually kill them."

The above quote serves as a wonderful metaphor for discussion about compassion; however, I'm ironically not talking about compassion in relation to others nor animals, but rather, towards ourselves.

How often do we beat ourselves up over things?

Many of us carry regrets such as "I should have done this" or "I shouldn't have said that."

These thoughts are no different than the wild cats…

Some people might say not to worry about these wild thoughts: "Don't carry guilt or regret… because guilt and regret are living in the past, and I 'should' be living in the present." That's all well and good, but it doesn't acknowledge the basic fact that we're feeling guilt or regret right now. And that is the present moment.

The real questions are these…

How do we learn to release some of the guilts and regrets we have?

How do we learn to accept ourselves, even when we feel so completely unacceptable?

In the context of the metaphor… how do we learn to neuter those negative thoughts?

What I propose is, rather than looking at it from the perspective of accepting ourselves, or of not feeling certain negative emotions because we're not "supposed to," instead apply the "Trap and Release" to our thoughts. How, you might ask? Try this…

The next time you have a thought that isn't pleasant, observe it. That's it, just observe it. After a moment, let it go.

For example, let's say that somebody says something that hurts your feelings, but inside you know they didn't mean to hurt your feelings. You end up telling yourself, "I shouldn't feel hurt. I know they didn't mean it." The challenge we have with this way of thinking is that we end up judging ourselves ("should" is usually an indicator that you're judging) for how we feel instead of understanding it. This judgment ends up causing us to feel even worse about ourselves… after all, what's worse then feeling bad? Feeling bad *about* feeling bad!

We end up trying to "kill" the thought by fighting against it… but fighting against something only serves to bring on another fight. Every time we say "I should" or "I shouldn't" we are fighting against ourselves and only serving to reinforce and build up our weapons against ourselves.

Internally, this has the same effect as a country fearing war so they start a draft and spend more on defense. Then another country sees this, they become fearful, and they start building up their defenses. Eventually, there's so much fear and so many weapons that people not only forget the original reason why they were fighting in the first place, but if somebody even sneezes wrong it could cause World War 3.

So now back to an example with ourselves…

In that moment, rather than say you "should" or "shouldn't" feel whatever it is you're feeling or thinking, instead just accept the fact that you feel hurt without trying to change it. Pause for a moment and just allow without judgment.

If you feel you can't avoid judging yourself, then offer to give yourself a temporary "cease fire." Say to yourself, "While I am observing this thought/emotion, I choose not to judge myself. However, in another five minutes I'll let any judgments I feel come into my awareness." The point behind this is to allow yourself to be accepting of that thought or emotion you are observing, at least for that moment.

What is the point of all of this? Why "Trap and Release"? Another excerpt from the article…

"Our goal is to catch the adult cats, spay or neuter them and release them back to their 'neighborhood.'"

If you continue to observe each of your judgmental thoughts (we all have them, even if it's something as simple as, "I don't like the way I feel right now" or "I wish that person would talk less."), you will begin to see the thoughts as they are.

You will begin to understand that the judgments you carry now, the negative thoughts you have today, are many times not because of what's happening in the present moment, but because what's happening in the present moment is poking at something painful or upsetting from your past.

If you want an extra challenge…

After pausing, ask yourself why you feel the way you do or had the thought you did. From our example, you might ask yourself, "Why does this hurt even though she didn't mean to hurt my feelings?" Be honest with yourself in that answer, and again remember not to judge your answer but just to accept and observe it.

Logically, you know you are not hurt because of what this person said (since they didn't mean to hurt you), but that you're actually hurt because this situation reminds you of something in your past that hurt. Maybe you are consciously aware of this thing in the past which hurts, but more than likely, you're not conscious of it (otherwise it probably wouldn't hurt when an unrelated event in the future causes this pain to be brought back up).

Eventually through this practice, the "wild cats" (i.e. negative thoughts) come in, become "neutered," and then go back to their "neighborhood."

Any way you look at it, though, by trapping, observing, and releasing your thoughts, you are allowing and accepting the natural flow of energy instead of impeding it. By stopping the "fight" within yourself, over time you will notice a progressively increasing sense of peace as you become more understanding of yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings.

This happens because as you allow yourself to be as you are, warts and all, your need to defend yourself… against yourself… becomes less and less prevalent.

You will feel less and less need to build up your arsenal of weapons preparing for war, and instead allow the weapons to be dismantled and set aside. They're still there, but they're benign and ineffective.

Eventually so much so, that you're able to walk across the boundaries of the war zone, shake hands with those you once feared…

With yourself you once feared…

And relax in peace.

Free DNA eBook

(free eBook) Overcome The “Poor” Genetics Sabotaging Your Abundance

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

This week I've been hanging out with many of my wonderful friends, including one whose story is unbelievable that I'm going to share with you.

But first, a question…

Did you know that research from Emory University showed how trauma and stress can be passed down for GENERATIONS through our DNA?

I had no idea until I read this ebook.

It's written by the daughter of a CIA agent. She grew up in constant awareness (and fear) that any visitor could be there to kill her, her siblings, and her parents.

Apparently our DNA holds experiences (good and bad) for up to 6 generations.

So imagine what happened to her (and happens to each of us) when we have traumatic experiences? It literally rewrites our DNA on-the-fly.

It wasn't pretty… ๐Ÿ™

Her name is Dawn Clark and she ultimately married an abusive husband. Miraculously, she found the courage to leave with her 3 children. Unfortunately, she had just $54 in her pocket.

But that's not all she had!

Dawn had fear

She had shame

And she had no ideas how she would support her family.

Unconscious to her, Dawn had been born into poverty. Not literally. But her DNA practically guaranteed that her life would end in poverty.

Fortunately, Dawn's story doesn't end there.

She tells all of that and more in her free eBook "Jumpstart Your Wealth Gene."

Download Your Free eBook Here

Dawn also shares of her two near-death experiences, how she found her way and recoded her DNA, as well as when she lost her way and had to remember to use the very tools that she had created.

Her story isn't just a rags-to-riches tale.

It's more than that.

It's about YOUR rags-to-riches tale (no matter how much or little money you may have right now).

It's about the potential that each and every one of us has to DROP all the "bad" DNA from our ancestors…

And reprogram our DNA for success, happiness, and of course wealth.

If you've ever wondered why…

  • Some families remain poor for generations no matter how hard they "work"
  • While the wealthy families get wealthier with seemingly less effort
  • Or affirmations don't seem to work reliably or consistently
  • And even how phobias get created

Dawn's research and work wll clear that up for you.

Her story will inspire you.

And what she shares will give you hope.

This goes beyond the Law of Attraction, beyond manifesting, and straight into the realms of cutting-edge science that were once believed to be nothing more than science-fiction.

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I thoroughly enjoyed reading Dawn's eBook and discovering more about her fascinating, challenging, and inspiring life story…

As well as the research & tools she discovered to reprogram our abundance limitations from the deepest layers of our DNA.

And I'm sure you will too. ๐Ÿ™‚

Here's a picture of Dawn and I last night in Las Vegas… ๐Ÿ™‚

Dawn and Chris

Grab Her Free eBook Here

My UGLY Truth

My UGLY Truth

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Healthy Living

For a long time, I disliked and even resented everything that was wrong about my body.

I judged myself for being "ugly" and other people just fed into that. It started really young and people teased me in elementary school.

Then shortly after puberty, I was crushing HARD on a girl. Perhaps I was borderline obsessing. I wanted her bad.

Well, one day I was hanging out with her friend and that person confided in me, that the girl I wanted had privately said to her…

"See. I told you he was ugly."

I was crushed.

The thing is, that wasn't an isolated incident. It took me 5 (yes FIVE) tries to get a date to my Senior Ball formal dance. I even got rejected by a girl who didn't go to my school and didn't have anything else to do that night.

(fortunately a good friend came through and found me a date with a fantastic girl and we had a lot of fun)

That trend continued through college. I was even in a fraternity and known as the brother who "don't got game." I was a nice guy, but the issues I had with my body got in the way of me actually connecting with women.

I could go on and on. I spent years loathing my body and wishing I could be different. I picked apart all the parts of my body that I felt weren't perfect.

It took me many many years to realize that I had been perpetuating a self-fulfilling prophecy. It took me many years to figure out the secrets to not only accepting my body, but loving it.

Now, I can honestly say that many women find me attractive. Anytime my former girlfriend posted pics of me (or us) on Facebook, the comments were always about how cute I was or how lucky she was to get a guy like me.

So what changed?

My inner state.

Once I turned around my thoughts, I also learned how to make changes to my external appearance that AMPLIFIED my best qualities. I even lost weight (without dieting).

The reality is that you and I both know what we want our bodies to look and feel like. But if you're like most people… you aren't 100% happy with your body.

You might not completely like what you see when you look in the mirror…

Your energy could be dragging…

Maybe your muscles are stiffening (or already stiff)…

Or you're getting weaker as you age…

You may even be in pain on a regular basis. ๐Ÿ™

The bottom line is that if you're human, odds are there's some part of your physical life that feels like it could be better… that part of you wants to feel or look healthier.

If this resonates with you at all, then it's time to make a change.

And if you want to know how to create your ideal body (YOUR ideal, not "society's" ideal)…

With no dieting, no restrictions and especially no guilt…

Then invest just 60 seconds right now to RSVP for your space on a new online training with my beloved friend Christy Whitman:

Creating Your Ideal Body:
How to Effortlessly Manifest the Body You Want –
and Keep It Forever

Reserve Your Free Spot Now

I've known Christy for many many years, and in the past I always shared about her coaching academy. What most people don't realize though is she didn't start by certifying coaches…

Christy started by coaching people like you and I who wanted more abundance, better bodies, and ultimately just to enjoy life more and create the lives that they really want deep in their hearts.

During this 70-minute complimentary training with her, you'll discover how to create the ideal body you desire and deserve. For example, she'll show you how to:

  • Define what having your ideal body means to you – and how to start creating it now. (Your ideal body is a personal vision, and it's vital that you don't let the media and society define what your ideal body should be. Learn how to tune into how your ideal body feels, so creating it becomes super-easy!)
  • Discover the secrets to creating your ideal body with NO dieting, NO food restrictions, and NO guilt. (Discover the 2 key factors that no one in the diet world is telling you – but that are vital for losing weight effortlessly and keeping it off for the rest of your life.)
  • Learn the secret for keeping your ideal body forever – and permanently breaking the yo-yo dieting cycle. (If you've lost and regained the same 20 pounds over and over, this strategy will change your life. Hint: It's the complete opposite of the standard advice you get from doctors, trainers and diet programs.)
  • Uncover how you're unconsciously sabotaging your weight loss – and why. (You'll get crystal clear on what's blocking you from creating your ideal body – so you can finally change it.) You'll even get to participate in a process that will jump-start you on the path to easily creating your ideal body.

Start Creating Your Ideal Body

If you can relate to anything that I've shared, then now is the time to get the support that I never had.

My friendship with Christy has changed my life, and I'm confident that she can help you positively change yours as well… including how she dropped 30 pounds and has kept it off for 13 years (even after 2 pregnancies).

We all deserve to feel AWESOME in our bodies. Our bodies are the gift that God gave us to live a human life.

My wish is that every day you can wake up in the mirror feeling great and knowing that you have -your- ideal body…

Not the one that society tells us to have. Not the one that your friends or family told you to have. And definitely not the one that your inner critic tells you that you "should" have.

No. I want you to know what it's like to live in YOUR ideal body, no matter what that looks like or how it feels.

You Deserve This

What Kind Of Builder Are You?

What Kind Of Builder Are You?

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

My amazing mother sent me this story a while back. I loved it, and I'm sure you will too… ๐Ÿ™‚

Once upon a time, two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side-by-side,sharing machinery and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch.

Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference and finally, it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.

One morning there was a knock on John's door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter's toolbox: "I'm looking for a few days' work," he said. "Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there I could help with? Could I help you?"

"Yes," said the older brother. "I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm. That's my neighbor. In fact, it's my younger brother!

Last week there was a meadow between us. He recently took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I'll do him one better. See that pile of lumber by the barn? I want you to build me a fence an 8-foot fence – so I won't need to see his place or his face anymore."

The carpenter said, "I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I'll be able to do a job that pleases you."

The older brother had to go to town, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day. The carpenter worked hard all that day – measuring, sawing and nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. The farmer's eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped.

There was no fence there at all.

It was a bridge… A bridge that stretched from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work, handrails and all! And the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming toward them, his hand outstretched..

"You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I've said and done."

The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each others hand. They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox onto his shoulder.

"No, wait! Stay a few days. I've a lot of other projects for you," said the older brother.

"I'd love to stay on," the carpenter said, "but I have many more bridges to build."

If you want to build even better bridges in your life…

Then be sure to check out my brand new "Instant Inner Peace" program. It'll help you develop the peace of mind to help co-create outer peace. ๐Ÿ™‚

Instant Inner Peace

(Video) Instant Inner Peace

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Product Recommendations

Recently I was at a mastermind with some of the top teachers in personal development, and my friend Tim (who I've told you about before) came up to me and said…

"What can we do together to serve more people this year?"

I thought about it and said "I'm not sure, and I'd love to do something with you."

"How about we create a product together?"

"Sounds fun, let's do it!"

Well if you remember from the last time I shared about Tim, one of the things I love about him is he's figured out how to simplify things into systems. In this case, he had a system for how we could quickly create a quality product together.

That conversation was last month. And today (yes, just a few short weeks later), I'm grateful to share with you the "Instant Inner Peace" product that we have co-created. ๐Ÿ™‚

Watch This Shoret Video To Learn More

The video is only a few minutes long and will bring you into the world behind WHY this product exists.

You'll also get to hear in Tim's own words how he perceives me and experienced our friendship developing.

Anger, Sadness, Confusion, Depression

Stop Feeling The Way You Know You Shouldn’t

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A while back I shared with you my thoughts about "The LIE About Positive Thinking." Today, I'd like to expand on that topic in a different way. Specifically, the question is: Is it okay to have our thoughts?
On the surface, it seems obvious. Of course it's fine to have our thoughts!

But what if they're judgmental? Or so anti-Law Of Attraction that they're negative or hurtful? Shameful? Is it okay to have those thoughts too?
I recall years ago that whenever I wanted to feel a specific kind of emotion, I'd change my music to something that mirrored what I wanted. If I wanted to feel energized, I put on Dream Theater, Van Halen, Metallica, or Robert Miles. If I wanted to feel mellow, I put on some Diana Krall, Enigma, or Enya. For whatever mood I wanted, I put in the music that would take me there.

It wasn't until I ventured further down my spiritual path that I realized how detrimental that was to myself. I thought I was doing myself a favor by "picking myself up" naturally. Sort of like when you have a bad day, and a friend comes over and says, "Hey, let's go shopping and get some dessert. Forget that loser ex of yours for a while."
On the surface, that seems empowering and compassionate. The intention is well. However, all those examples have one thing in common:


Each one of them is rejecting the moment. It's rejecting the person's experience. It's rejecting the possibility that being right where you are is exactly where you're supposed to be.  It is fundamentally saying to yourself, "Stop feeling the way you know you shouldn't." And as I teach in Liberate Your Life, every time you use the word "should" you're identifying with Your Inner Critic, limiting your growth and minimizing your happiness.
So then what's the alternative?

Honoring the moment.

Instead of telling yourself how to feel or trying to change how you feel, just accept it. With regards to my music, I found a real deep peace and a kind of magical mystery when I switched my mindset. Instead of finding music to cover up what I felt, to ignore my emotions, to try and transcend them, or try to evade them…

I found myself putting in music that honored exactly who I was in that very moment.

The result was profound. Instead of having an underlying agitated state of rejection and frustration, I was listening to the perfect music for that moment. Because the music was aligned with my inner state, there was a resonance which created a sense of peace.
It seems counterintuitive.

After all, sometimes I'd feel a deep sadness. Maybe an anger. Maybe shame. Delight and joy. Excitement. It could be anything. And yet when I put in music that completely honored the emotion I was experiencing, I also felt peace.

The other emotions didn't disappear. I didn't stop feeling sad or angry. What changed was that instead of rejecting my sadness or anger, I was at peace with it…

And that made all the difference.

Negative Childhood Experiences

4 Childhood Experiences We MUST Release To Move Forward

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Studies on the human mind have proven that as a child, our minds are like sponges. Everything we see, hear, encounter and experience gets absorbed deep in our subconscious minds, and continues to influence us from behind the scenes for much of our lives.

This subconscious influence can be either a blessing or a burden, depending on how it drives our thoughts, emotions and beliefs.

The ones that cause unwanted emotions like fear, self-doubt and negativity should be scrubbed from our subconscious minds – and the first step to achieving that is knowing exactly what childhood experiences are adversely affecting us and why.

Here are four of the most common types of childhood experiences we must release to move forward with our lives:

  1. Moments of uncontrollable, paralyzing fear
  2. Situations where procrastination paid off (in the short term)
  3. Inability to find a pursuit, skill or purpose that made your heart sing
  4. Moments of self-doubt caused by judgmental parents and role models

The above kinds of experiences create subconscious triggers that become implanted in our minds. These unfortunately work in the background like computer viruses, so we don't even know they're there or how they're holding us back.

They cause us to say things we don't mean, give in to bad habits, and make poor choices – that leave us frustrated and wondering "why?"

We'll go into more details on all four of those childhood experiences. Before we do, it would be really helpful to identify exactly which one is most likely negatively affecting you.

To help you do that, my friend Natalie Ledwell (see pic below) has created a quick eye-opening quiz that will bring you face-to-face with the BIGGEST Negative Childhood Imprint holding back your career and finances:

Discover Your #1 Negative Childhood Imprint

Empowered with that information, let's look at the four most common types of experiences that create Negative Childhood Imprints. And even though the quiz helped you identify the biggest one, if you're like me then you'll recognize yourself in ALL of these situations.

(unfortunately, but hey… we're all human and as they say "shit happens")

1. Moments of uncontrollable, paralyzing fear

Fear is a natural part of growing up. As children, we fear speaking on stage. We fear failing school exams. We fear asking out a potential prom date. We fear standing up to the school bully.

For most of us, that fear was validated when we failed at certain tasks or challenges – and the consequences left us embarrassed, unworthy and doubtful of our own abilities.

For some of us, that fear has solidified into a suit of armor we've carried into adulthood; an excuse to avoid taking risks or explore beyond our comfort zones.

Be mindful that our purpose in life is to grow; and fear is a necessary ingredient towards that growth. Even award-winning performers like Adele still get fearfully nervous on stage, but that doesn't stop them from stepping up time and time again.

And as George R.R. Martin says, "The only time a person can be truly brave is by first facing a fearful situation – and tackling it head-on anyway."

2. Situations where procrastination paid off (in the short term)

Our brains are hardwired to shield us from harm – which is good when you're stepping aside to avoid a falling tree; but not so good when your brain convinces you to stay put, sit still, and not do today what you can do tomorrow.

As children, we quickly begin to encounter situations where procrastination pumps us up with a (short-term) high.

Skipping homework to play video games is fun. Staying up a few extra hours past bedtime is nice. And mowing the lawn tomorrow so you can go play basketball today, sounds like a great idea.

Sure, just like smoking and eating unhealthy food, there are consequences to your temporary high – but once we become addicted to procrastination, pushing them to the back of your mind becomes second nature.

What makes procrastination even more damaging is that as we get older, the stakes get higher.

Our careers, finances and health all require our immediate attention.

…and sometimes holding off on an important task for even just a few days is enough for everything to come crashing down.

So don't procrastinate on shaking off your procrastination habit: respect yourself, your time and your life by treating it with the urgency it deserves.

3. Inability to find a pursuit, skill or purpose that made your heart sing

You probably remember at least a few people from your childhood who pursued a hobby or skill, like dancing, playing a musical instrument or a sport, and went on to turn that pursuit into a successful lifelong career.

Most of us, however, tend to drift away from the paths we explored as children, if we had the opportunity to explore any in the first place.

Instead, we follow what's available and convenient, sacrificing the discovery or pursuit of what truly fulfills us on a deeper level.

Then, as the bills, responsibilities and deadlines of adulthood stack up, we completely sideline any notion of honoring our passions; instead, we settle for admiring other people's passion-driven achievements.

But, as the German philosopher Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel said, "Nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion."

On your deathbed, a passionless life will be one of your biggest regrets. So remember that honoring yours is equally as, or even more important than, wealth and professional stability.

4. Moments of self-doubt caused by judgmental parents and role models

From our grades to our fashion sense, it's normal for our parents, mentors, teachers and role models to act judgmentally towards us as we're growing up.

This behavior often boils down to a well-meaning protective streak that manifests as excessive scrutiny on our actions, decisions and academic performance.

Unfortunately, being constantly put under a microscope can manifest a sense of unease and nervousness each time we're faced with a decision that should be ours and ours alone to make.

"What will they think?" and, "Will I let them down?" are common questions we ask yourself when we're plagued by the self-doubt of excessive judgment.

To overcome this block, it's crucial that we reinforce the understanding that we are the captain of our own ships, and that nobody has the right to judge us.

While it is, of course, admirable to make our parents and mentors happy, our own happiness comes before anything else – and those who truly love us must remember this fact.

Knowing the 4 most common damaging childhood experiences isn't enough though.

It's crucial to know which one is affecting you most. The tricky thing is, because these experiences exist in yur subconscious minds, it's hard to figure this out by ourselves – in fact, the truth may be the complete opposite of what we think.

That's why my friend Natalie created her free 30-second quiz that, through a series of carefully arranged questions, helps you identify the primary childhood experience that is likely to be the most damaging to your career, finances and life.

(Or as she calls it, your Negative Childhood Imprint.)

After the quiz, you'll receive a personalized video report detailing your results, plus detailed action steps for erasing this Negative Childhood Imprint from your mind:

Click here to take the 30-second quiz and discover your most damaging Negative Childhood Imprint.

I especially love the timing with the fireworks in the background! ๐Ÿ™‚

Of the four types of Negative Childhood Imprints, which one is affecting you the most?

God's Three Answers To Prayers

God’s Three Answers To Prayers

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Let’s piggyback off of my previous blog post about getting support with this quote from one of my favorite motivational speakers, Nick Vujicic – a man with no arms, no legs… and it’s no problem.

I follow him on Facebook, and he posted something recently that really resonated with me. Enough so, that I felt like elaborating on it:

“God’s Three Answers to Prayers”

  1. Yes
  2. Not yet.
  3. I have something better in mind.

It really gave me pause – how often do we TRULY believe that God is answering our prayers?

We all love #1 and we can accept #2. But #3?

Nobody likes asking and not receiving. Of course if we KNEW something better was coming, we would be able to more easily accept not getting what we wanted. Especially if we knew what that something better actually was. ๐Ÿ™‚

Life doesn’t always work that way, though. And no matter how much we study manifesting and the Law of Attraction, there remains some immutable truths: We don’t always get what we want.

Is it because we’re bad at manifesting? Is it because the Law of Attraction isn’t a law… and doesn’t work 100% of the time?

Those questions might run through your mind. That’s normal. It’s also taking us away from the real opportunity here:

To experience Divine support.

To know that we ARE taken care of one way or another. It may not be how we want to be taken care of, yet we are still taken care of.

My belief…

(and by all means, don’t blindly adopt this idea without testing it & trying it out in your life)

Is that the real question of OUTER support depends on our INNER support. When we’re solid within ourselves and we seek to perceive our inner & outer worlds accurately, we empower the world around us to support us more effectively.

For example: If we can’t ask for what we want, it’s nearly impossible for it to be provided to us.

Or if our perception is so blocked that we can’t accept the *possiblity* that an unanswered prayer means something better is coming, then we can’t RECEIVE that possibility. The answer to our prayers might come, but our minds would be closed off to it and miss the opportunity.

Just like this parable about a drowning man…

While out to sea, a large boat became shipwrecked and there was only a single survivor. This man prayed and asked God to save his life. Soon thereafter, another boat came by and offered the man some help.

“No thanks,” he said. “I’m waiting for God to save me.”

The men on the boat shrugged their shoulders and continued. As the man became more deeply concerned, another boat came by. Again, the people aboard offered this man some help, and again he politely decline. “I’m waiting for God to save me,” he said again.

After some time, the man began to lose his faith, and soon after that he died. Upon reaching Heaven, he had a chance to speak with God briefly.

“Why did you let me die? Why didn’t you answer my prayers?”

“Actually, I sent you two boats.”

The man prayed for GOD, and what he received was two of God’s messengers.

My reflection questions for you:

  1. Are there any messengers you might have missed because they didn’t look the way you expected?

  2. If you truly believed that unanswered prayers would lead to something better, how might you live your life differently?
  3. What is one small action you can take today to show God that you completely trust… “this or something better”?
Getting Support

Getting Support

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A little over a year ago, I was going through an unexpected heartbreak. I had spent some time with an amazing woman, and I opened my heart up to dating her.

Unfortunately, she wasn’t in the same place.

And though we’re still wonderful friends and I value her Presence in my life greatly, at the time I took it really hard. In that pain, I realized a very simple truth:

Few of us actually ask for what we need in our lives.

I needed support. I needed to be seen, heard, and supported. This was difficult though because I live in a less-populated area with no close friends nearby.

I felt alone.

In the past when I felt alone, I’d withdraw even further. I’d hide and keep my feelings to myself. Part of me didn’t feel worthy to ask for support. Part of me was scared I wouldn’t receive it.

But I wasn’t that person anymore, and so I chose a different route.

I posted the following message to my small group of personal friends on Facebook:

“Going through a transformational time, and I’d like your support…

For many reasons, too often people are afraid to ask for what they want and need. That’s just plain silly though, since there’s a neverending well of support available to us for the asking.

So I’m asking!

“Please write a comment (or PM or text me) about something you like / love / appreciate about me.”

It’s important to notice I didn’t ask for help or well-wishes. That wasn’t the support I personally needed in that moment.

My heart was broken and I needed to feel loved. I needed to feel the fullness of my heart so that I could love myself back together again.

The comments people wrote were really touching and a powerful reminder of who I am, how I impact people, and the way I show up in the world.

And the reason I’m sharing this with you is because there are a LOT of ways that we often don’t ask for the support we want and need. Yet there’s so much available to us when we reach out and actually let people into our world… into our hearts.

So next time you find yourself feeling unsupported, look around and be curious what support might actually be available to you…

If you were to only ask.

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