Recently I wrote a controversial email that triggered and challenged some people. It was called “You shouldn’t have preferences?” and here is one reply that is well worth exploring:
“But Chris what if you were talking about your son and not chocolate. It wouldn’t really matter whether the chocolate was there or not but it certainly would with your son. I think there are degrees of loving.”
That’s a great point, so let’s get straight to it…
Each night my son loves it when I read to him. In one of his magazines we used to read, there was a short story called "The Cheetah Nursery." It shares about the process that baby cheetahs go through from birth until they are ready to live on their own.
For several weeks in a row, my son wanted me to read that story every night. I did, and he listened captively.
Then one day he started reading it to me, except that I noticed sometimes he would say certain words that didn't match. That’s when I knew he wasn't actually reading. He was reciting the story from memory. He had associated certain pictures with certain sentences and was able to correctly remember the context of the sentences and got about 90% of the words correct.
It reminded me of something that we often do with our inner development…
A teacher tells us about a wisdom Truth, we like it, and we adopt it as our own. We start reciting it like a mantra or affirmation, perhaps even teaching it to others, without having the experience to know it's true -for us- specifically. It's in our head, but not our hearts.
It should be no mystery I'm a huge fan of finding out what is true for myself. That's why I encourage you to do the same.
So what good does it do to recite ideas like “We shouldn’t have preferences” when we're in the middle of a debilitating disease, an emotionally traumatic situation, or a severe injury?
It does us no good. That just becomes a denial. It's another version of "The Lie About Positive Thinking." It lacks compassion and denies us important aspects of our humanity such as our vulnerability and our potential to grow.
Including this while circling back to the original question regarding my son, I am reminded of the Zen story…
A Zen Master’s child had died. He had been weeping uncontrollably for days… for weeks even. The Master was in a state of terrible sorrow and no matter what anybody tried, he was completely inconsolable.
Eventually one of his students came up and said to him, "Pain is just an illusion."
I don't know about you, but in that situation, if somebody said that to me, I'd find it hard to stay kind, compassionate, and not step into a state of anger. Not unlike if I had lost my son and somebody told me “Well, you shouldn’t have any preferences. Isn’t that what you just wrote the other day, Chris?”
Anyway, do you know what the Zen Master said?
quot;Yes. But the death of a child is the greatest illusion of all."
This is the reality of life. It's a tough road. The teachings are not here to be mindlessly adopted and recited… they are here to guide us towards the Truth of our experience.
I find similar challenges with all wisdom teachings. It's easy to read a book that teaches us "We are all one," and most of us are privileged enough to have at least a brief experience or two of living it.
"We are all one" sounds great. It's a wonderful principle to guide us act more compassionately in the world.
But do we really feel like one when we've just had our heart broken, we are betrayed by a coworker, or when people project their anger onto us? (or us onto them??)
It's not so easy at those times. That's when we have to practice the Truth… and often at the same time, accept the times when we feel unable to live the Truth.
It's really no different than my son "reading" his story to me. He's reciting just a piece of what his mind knows, without him having the experiential understanding of what it means to read. And if I were faced with the pain of losing my son, I would be challenged to to explore “preferences” at an even deeper level than I already have.
On that note, next time you hear a spiritual Truth that sounds good…
Next time you read a book, email, or quote that seems to resonate…
PUT IT TO THE TEST.
Don't just listen to the words and accept them blindly. Also don’t reject them blindly. Instead, let them land with you in the Present moment.
Try it out in your life. Live the teaching and see what you discover. Then practice living it more with each passing day.
Maybe you'll discover that we are all one or that we really do (or don’t) have preferences. Perhaps you'll also discover what blockages you have to living certain wisdom teachings every moment of every day. You might find yourself deepening into that Truth and experiencing it more with each passing day.
Or perhaps you'll discover that we're all separate beings, living separate lives, uniquely. Unable to connect.
I don't know what you'll discover. What I do know is this:
Adopting other peoples' opinions as your own is like seeing fire on a TV and being scared that it's going to burn you.
Your Partner In Truth,
Liberate Your Life
P.S. No cheetahs were injured during the writing of this email.
P.P.S. If you haven't yet registered for your free feng shui class with Marie Diamond, click here now. I’ve already got my program upgrade and will be listening on my iPhone.
If you missed my message about it on Monday, you can learn more about it below…
“Why Get Off The Couch…… When You Can Just Move It Instead?
In chaos theory, the butterfly effect is a principle that even the slightest movement or change in one place can create MASSIVE change in a far far away place.
It's illustrated and named after the premise that a butterfly flapping its wings could ultimately be the reason that halfway across the globe a hurricane is created.
On the surface, this seems implausible to the logical mind.
Yet in smaller contexts we can see just exactly how it's already operating. We only need to roll a ball down a hill to see how a small rock or indentation in the hill can significantly alter the ball's course — which could cause any number of additional reactions both big and small.
On a related note, Chinese emperors had access to sacred knowledge about how their surroundings affect energy — for better or for worse.
They knew how to attract positive energy and how to deflect negative energy.
And for thousands of years they used it for long life, to control their empire, and to build supreme wealth.
To these Emperors, this knowledge was mystical. But today this art of Feng Shui can be explained through quantum physics.
By making specific changes in our environments, we make changes in the energy that surrounds us, and this can have massive impacts on our lives.
This is why Marie Diamond says that moving our couches can affect our financial wealth, health, happiness, and sense of peace.
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"Everything is energy."
In her complimentary e-course, Marie will teach us how feng shui is more than good interior design and having space that "feels" good. When done right, she says it's one of the most powerful personal development tools ever that we can use to:
Reduce drama, conflict, and stress in our homes and workplaces
Learn and remember things more easily
Attract more rewards for our talents and accomplishments
Have more high-quality relationships in all walks of life
Let go of energies that keep us stuck
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I've heard of feng shui for years and been curious about it. Now we can both learn about it for free during her Diamond Feng Shui online course.
As I was recently reading an article by Marie about using feng shui to be the Kings and Queens of our lives, a few things she wrote really made sense to me:
(1) Keep your bed against a wall. And make sure that you're facing the doorway both when you're awake and as you sleep.
I've never been able to consciously explain why I have always felt a very *strong* compulsion to do both of these things.
The best answer I could come up with was that with my martial arts background, I simply felt "safer." Marie points out that it also has to do with choice.
By facing my doorway while awake, I am actively aware of who comes in and I can make the choice to let them in. This is different than facing away from the door and having to respond or be taken by surprise energetically. Doing this while we sleep continues to reinforce the same energetic disposition of "choice."
Energetically, Marie points out that Kings and Queens always have this kind of control over who enters their space.
(2) Keep lots of open space within your room
I have always felt odd whenever things were on my floor. There's something calming about walking into a room with space in it. And lately I've been feeling an even greater urge to straighten up my living and work spaces.
Marie points out that Kings and Queens have their spaces clean and prepared before they enter… as a kind of homage to their royalty. Similarly, if we want to create amazing lives then our living spaces must carry a similar energy:
We are royalty.
Yes you. And me. We are royalty. Just some of us haven't fully realized it yet. We are amazing Beings with incredible potential.
And my orientation towards life is that every little shift we make does ultimately compound to make a big difference in our lives.
So if bringing in a little bit of feng shui royalty here, some Paraliminals and brainwave entrainment there, a meditation in the morning, some supplements along with healthy meals, and moving my furniture, will all contribute a little bit each to my overall well being…
I'm all for it.
I've noticed that I feel noticeably better when my living space is organized. I feel better with more space around me. I feel better returning from a trip and having a clean room and my bred made.
And those feelings, regardless of whether they have metaphysical impacts, do support me in creating a better life for myself, my loved ones, and the people I come into contact with.
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That's why whenever they have a free online event, no matter what it is, I share it with you. If it's something I have and use, I recommend it from personal experience.
And in situations like this, it's something where I have the opportunity to learn alongside you.
Your Partner In Moving Couches,
Liberate Your Life
P.S. According to Marie…
"If you've tried everything to change your life, but nothing happens, maybe you're living with bad Feng Shui. Your misfortune – or lack of fortune -may be due to the energy of your environment.
Still, moving into a new home or switching jobs is not the solution.
Bad Feng Shui is likely to follow you around until you take action to change it."
P.P.S. If you're curious what's covered in your free class…
Here's the full schedule
Day 1: Diamond Feng Shui Essentials
Day 2: Feng Shui for Power and Wisdom
Day 3: Feng Shui for Love, Balance, and Harmony
Day 4: Feng Shui for Purity and Health
Day 5: Feng Shui for Forgiveness and Clarity
Day 6: Feng Shui for Focus, Joy, Abundance, and Transformation
P.P.S.S. Although everyone's results will vary…
Here's what a few of her students have said after they used program that you're getting for free:
"Promoted to Senior Vice President with a 25% increase in pay."
"Immediately we became lovey-dovey again."
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