Just after my divorce three years ago, I unexpectedly received a book in the mail. Inside the cover was a personally written note thanking me for my authenticity and integrity, for being a guide in this woman's life for several years, and she was requesting that I endorse her book.
At first I kinda shrugged. I get tons of book review requests. Too many for me to ever read in this lifetime. But something nagged at me…
She wasn't asking for a review. And though it looked like she was asking for an endorsement, that wasn't really what she was asking either. Underneath the words, she was asking a different question:
"Will you accept this expression of my gratitude for how you have personally changed my life?"
Still, it was another book to read and review. My shelf has dozens of unread books from people asking for reviews and endorsements. Some of them I am sure are amazing books, and many are from best-selling authors. And they all have something in common: They're sitting on my shelf and haven't been read.
And this book was a memoir of all things… which for me, is just not my thing. I've never been into memoirs. I've tried. I just can't do it. I love peoples' stories, but the memoir book format just doesn't engage me.
But this was different. Something nagged at me to pick up the book…
I think it was all of the above and the title which was so appropriate for this transitional stage in my life. It was called "Thank You For Leaving Me." As soon as I picked it up, I couldn't stop reading. It was clear to me that this wasn't a typical memoir.
It was raw and authentic yet full of juicy spiritual wisdom I could really relate to. I felt like sometimes I was reading my own story from another's perspective.
Regardless of my busy schedule, I devoured the book in a few days.
After I finished, I reached out to the author, Farhana letting her know I'd write an endorsement for her book. The endorsement below appears on the back of "Thank You For Leaving Me"
This strikingly authentic and enlightening memoir guides us to the real freedom that awaits us… when we have the courage to let go of what doesn't work in our lives.
Although the book is titled, "Thank You For Leaving Me: Finding Divinity In Divorce" I think you'll see from my endorsement that I recognized this isn't just a book about divorce. It's a book about finding the grace and gifts in letting go in all aspects of life. It's about finding divinity in difficulty.
After Farhana and I connected, we both recognized our instant deep connection. Since then we've become the dearest of friends. We've laughed together and we've cried together. We've been witness to some of each others' most vulnerable moments and some of our mysteriously spontaneous 'ahas' and insights.
In fact, last year was the ultimate role-reversal when Farhana –this woman whom considered me her mentor– became an invaluable support for me through my Dark Night of the Soul.
When I felt lost, confused, and in pain… she had the right words of wisdom to remind me of my own divinity, my own gifts, and to help me see through the trauma and nightmares. When I couldn't sleep or eat, she helped me see a little bit of who I would become when I emerged into the Morning Light.
I could have never imagined that receiving a random book in the mail could have changed my life this profoundly. Farhana is a gift to the world, and today is her book launch day. I am grateful to share her work with you.
Grab a copy of her book, and after you read it then share it with somebody you know will benefit from it.