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What Kind Of Builder Are You?

What Kind Of Builder Are You?

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

My amazing mother sent me this story a while back. I loved it, and I'm sure you will too… ๐Ÿ™‚

Once upon a time, two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side-by-side,sharing machinery and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch.

Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference and finally, it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.

One morning there was a knock on John's door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter's toolbox: "I'm looking for a few days' work," he said. "Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there I could help with? Could I help you?"

"Yes," said the older brother. "I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm. That's my neighbor. In fact, it's my younger brother!

Last week there was a meadow between us. He recently took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I'll do him one better. See that pile of lumber by the barn? I want you to build me a fence an 8-foot fence – so I won't need to see his place or his face anymore."

The carpenter said, "I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I'll be able to do a job that pleases you."

The older brother had to go to town, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day. The carpenter worked hard all that day – measuring, sawing and nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. The farmer's eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped.

There was no fence there at all.

It was a bridge… A bridge that stretched from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work, handrails and all! And the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming toward them, his hand outstretched..

"You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I've said and done."

The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each others hand. They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox onto his shoulder.

"No, wait! Stay a few days. I've a lot of other projects for you," said the older brother.

"I'd love to stay on," the carpenter said, "but I have many more bridges to build."

If you want to build even better bridges in your life…

Then be sure to check out my brand new "Instant Inner Peace" program. It'll help you develop the peace of mind to help co-create outer peace. ๐Ÿ™‚
 

Anger, Sadness, Confusion, Depression

Stop Feeling The Way You Know You Shouldn’t

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A while back I shared with you my thoughts about "The LIE About Positive Thinking." Today, I'd like to expand on that topic in a different way. Specifically, the question is: Is it okay to have our thoughts?
 
On the surface, it seems obvious. Of course it's fine to have our thoughts!

But what if they're judgmental? Or so anti-Law Of Attraction that they're negative or hurtful? Shameful? Is it okay to have those thoughts too?
 
I recall years ago that whenever I wanted to feel a specific kind of emotion, I'd change my music to something that mirrored what I wanted. If I wanted to feel energized, I put on Dream Theater, Van Halen, Metallica, or Robert Miles. If I wanted to feel mellow, I put on some Diana Krall, Enigma, or Enya. For whatever mood I wanted, I put in the music that would take me there.

It wasn't until I ventured further down my spiritual path that I realized how detrimental that was to myself. I thought I was doing myself a favor by "picking myself up" naturally. Sort of like when you have a bad day, and a friend comes over and says, "Hey, let's go shopping and get some dessert. Forget that loser ex of yours for a while."
 
On the surface, that seems empowering and compassionate. The intention is well. However, all those examples have one thing in common:

Rejection.

Each one of them is rejecting the moment. It's rejecting the person's experience. It's rejecting the possibility that being right where you are is exactly where you're supposed to be.  It is fundamentally saying to yourself, "Stop feeling the way you know you shouldn't." And as I teach in Liberate Your Life, every time you use the word "should" you're identifying with Your Inner Critic, limiting your growth and minimizing your happiness.
 
So then what's the alternative?

Honoring the moment.

Instead of telling yourself how to feel or trying to change how you feel, just accept it. With regards to my music, I found a real deep peace and a kind of magical mystery when I switched my mindset. Instead of finding music to cover up what I felt, to ignore my emotions, to try and transcend them, or try to evade them…

I found myself putting in music that honored exactly who I was in that very moment.

The result was profound. Instead of having an underlying agitated state of rejection and frustration, I was listening to the perfect music for that moment. Because the music was aligned with my inner state, there was a resonance which created a sense of peace.
 
It seems counterintuitive.

After all, sometimes I'd feel a deep sadness. Maybe an anger. Maybe shame. Delight and joy. Excitement. It could be anything. And yet when I put in music that completely honored the emotion I was experiencing, I also felt peace.

The other emotions didn't disappear. I didn't stop feeling sad or angry. What changed was that instead of rejecting my sadness or anger, I was at peace with it…

And that made all the difference.

Negative Childhood Experiences

4 Childhood Experiences We MUST Release To Move Forward

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Studies on the human mind have proven that as a child, our minds are like sponges. Everything we see, hear, encounter and experience gets absorbed deep in our subconscious minds, and continues to influence us from behind the scenes for much of our lives.

This subconscious influence can be either a blessing or a burden, depending on how it drives our thoughts, emotions and beliefs.

The ones that cause unwanted emotions like fear, self-doubt and negativity should be scrubbed from our subconscious minds – and the first step to achieving that is knowing exactly what childhood experiences are adversely affecting us and why.

Here are four of the most common types of childhood experiences we must release to move forward with our lives:

  1. Moments of uncontrollable, paralyzing fear
  2. Situations where procrastination paid off (in the short term)
  3. Inability to find a pursuit, skill or purpose that made your heart sing
  4. Moments of self-doubt caused by judgmental parents and role models

The above kinds of experiences create subconscious triggers that become implanted in our minds. These unfortunately work in the background like computer viruses, so we don't even know they're there or how they're holding us back.

They cause us to say things we don't mean, give in to bad habits, and make poor choices – that leave us frustrated and wondering "why?"

We'll go into more details on all four of those childhood experiences. Before we do, it would be really helpful to identify exactly which one is most likely negatively affecting you.

To help you do that, my friend Natalie Ledwell (see pic below) has created a quick eye-opening quiz that will bring you face-to-face with the BIGGEST Negative Childhood Imprint holding back your career and finances:

Discover Your #1 Negative Childhood Imprint

Empowered with that information, let's look at the four most common types of experiences that create Negative Childhood Imprints. And even though the quiz helped you identify the biggest one, if you're like me then you'll recognize yourself in ALL of these situations.

(unfortunately, but hey… we're all human and as they say "shit happens")

1. Moments of uncontrollable, paralyzing fear

Fear is a natural part of growing up. As children, we fear speaking on stage. We fear failing school exams. We fear asking out a potential prom date. We fear standing up to the school bully.

For most of us, that fear was validated when we failed at certain tasks or challenges – and the consequences left us embarrassed, unworthy and doubtful of our own abilities.

For some of us, that fear has solidified into a suit of armor we've carried into adulthood; an excuse to avoid taking risks or explore beyond our comfort zones.

Be mindful that our purpose in life is to grow; and fear is a necessary ingredient towards that growth. Even award-winning performers like Adele still get fearfully nervous on stage, but that doesn't stop them from stepping up time and time again.

And as George R.R. Martin says, "The only time a person can be truly brave is by first facing a fearful situation – and tackling it head-on anyway."

2. Situations where procrastination paid off (in the short term)

Our brains are hardwired to shield us from harm – which is good when you're stepping aside to avoid a falling tree; but not so good when your brain convinces you to stay put, sit still, and not do today what you can do tomorrow.

As children, we quickly begin to encounter situations where procrastination pumps us up with a (short-term) high.

Skipping homework to play video games is fun. Staying up a few extra hours past bedtime is nice. And mowing the lawn tomorrow so you can go play basketball today, sounds like a great idea.

Sure, just like smoking and eating unhealthy food, there are consequences to your temporary high – but once we become addicted to procrastination, pushing them to the back of your mind becomes second nature.

What makes procrastination even more damaging is that as we get older, the stakes get higher.

Our careers, finances and health all require our immediate attention.

…and sometimes holding off on an important task for even just a few days is enough for everything to come crashing down.

So don't procrastinate on shaking off your procrastination habit: respect yourself, your time and your life by treating it with the urgency it deserves.

3. Inability to find a pursuit, skill or purpose that made your heart sing

You probably remember at least a few people from your childhood who pursued a hobby or skill, like dancing, playing a musical instrument or a sport, and went on to turn that pursuit into a successful lifelong career.

Most of us, however, tend to drift away from the paths we explored as children, if we had the opportunity to explore any in the first place.

Instead, we follow what's available and convenient, sacrificing the discovery or pursuit of what truly fulfills us on a deeper level.

Then, as the bills, responsibilities and deadlines of adulthood stack up, we completely sideline any notion of honoring our passions; instead, we settle for admiring other people's passion-driven achievements.

But, as the German philosopher Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel said, "Nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion."

On your deathbed, a passionless life will be one of your biggest regrets. So remember that honoring yours is equally as, or even more important than, wealth and professional stability.

4. Moments of self-doubt caused by judgmental parents and role models

From our grades to our fashion sense, it's normal for our parents, mentors, teachers and role models to act judgmentally towards us as we're growing up.

This behavior often boils down to a well-meaning protective streak that manifests as excessive scrutiny on our actions, decisions and academic performance.

Unfortunately, being constantly put under a microscope can manifest a sense of unease and nervousness each time we're faced with a decision that should be ours and ours alone to make.

"What will they think?" and, "Will I let them down?" are common questions we ask yourself when we're plagued by the self-doubt of excessive judgment.

To overcome this block, it's crucial that we reinforce the understanding that we are the captain of our own ships, and that nobody has the right to judge us.

While it is, of course, admirable to make our parents and mentors happy, our own happiness comes before anything else – and those who truly love us must remember this fact.

Knowing the 4 most common damaging childhood experiences isn't enough though.

It's crucial to know which one is affecting you most. The tricky thing is, because these experiences exist in yur subconscious minds, it's hard to figure this out by ourselves – in fact, the truth may be the complete opposite of what we think.

That's why my friend Natalie created her free 30-second quiz that, through a series of carefully arranged questions, helps you identify the primary childhood experience that is likely to be the most damaging to your career, finances and life.

(Or as she calls it, your Negative Childhood Imprint.)

After the quiz, you'll receive a personalized video report detailing your results, plus detailed action steps for erasing this Negative Childhood Imprint from your mind:

Click here to take the 30-second quiz and discover your most damaging Negative Childhood Imprint.

I especially love the timing with the fireworks in the background! ๐Ÿ™‚

Of the four types of Negative Childhood Imprints, which one is affecting you the most?

God's Three Answers To Prayers

God’s Three Answers To Prayers

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Let’s piggyback off of my previous blog post about getting support with this quote from one of my favorite motivational speakers, Nick Vujicic – a man with no arms, no legs… and it’s no problem.

I follow him on Facebook, and he posted something recently that really resonated with me. Enough so, that I felt like elaborating on it:

“God’s Three Answers to Prayers”

  1. Yes
  2. Not yet.
  3. I have something better in mind.

It really gave me pause – how often do we TRULY believe that God is answering our prayers?

We all love #1 and we can accept #2. But #3?

Nobody likes asking and not receiving. Of course if we KNEW something better was coming, we would be able to more easily accept not getting what we wanted. Especially if we knew what that something better actually was. ๐Ÿ™‚

Life doesn’t always work that way, though. And no matter how much we study manifesting and the Law of Attraction, there remains some immutable truths: We don’t always get what we want.

Is it because we’re bad at manifesting? Is it because the Law of Attraction isn’t a law… and doesn’t work 100% of the time?

Those questions might run through your mind. That’s normal. It’s also taking us away from the real opportunity here:

To experience Divine support.

To know that we ARE taken care of one way or another. It may not be how we want to be taken care of, yet we are still taken care of.

My belief…

(and by all means, don’t blindly adopt this idea without testing it & trying it out in your life)

Is that the real question of OUTER support depends on our INNER support. When we’re solid within ourselves and we seek to perceive our inner & outer worlds accurately, we empower the world around us to support us more effectively.

For example: If we can’t ask for what we want, it’s nearly impossible for it to be provided to us.

Or if our perception is so blocked that we can’t accept the *possiblity* that an unanswered prayer means something better is coming, then we can’t RECEIVE that possibility. The answer to our prayers might come, but our minds would be closed off to it and miss the opportunity.

Just like this parable about a drowning man…

While out to sea, a large boat became shipwrecked and there was only a single survivor. This man prayed and asked God to save his life. Soon thereafter, another boat came by and offered the man some help.

“No thanks,” he said. “I’m waiting for God to save me.”

The men on the boat shrugged their shoulders and continued. As the man became more deeply concerned, another boat came by. Again, the people aboard offered this man some help, and again he politely decline. “I’m waiting for God to save me,” he said again.

After some time, the man began to lose his faith, and soon after that he died. Upon reaching Heaven, he had a chance to speak with God briefly.

“Why did you let me die? Why didn’t you answer my prayers?”

“Actually, I sent you two boats.”

The man prayed for GOD, and what he received was two of God’s messengers.

My reflection questions for you:

  1. Are there any messengers you might have missed because they didn’t look the way you expected?

  2. If you truly believed that unanswered prayers would lead to something better, how might you live your life differently?
  3. What is one small action you can take today to show God that you completely trust… “this or something better”?
Getting Support

Getting Support

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A little over a year ago, I was going through an unexpected heartbreak. I had spent some time with an amazing woman, and I opened my heart up to dating her.

Unfortunately, she wasn’t in the same place.

And though we’re still wonderful friends and I value her Presence in my life greatly, at the time I took it really hard. In that pain, I realized a very simple truth:

Few of us actually ask for what we need in our lives.

I needed support. I needed to be seen, heard, and supported. This was difficult though because I live in a less-populated area with no close friends nearby.

I felt alone.

In the past when I felt alone, I’d withdraw even further. I’d hide and keep my feelings to myself. Part of me didn’t feel worthy to ask for support. Part of me was scared I wouldn’t receive it.

But I wasn’t that person anymore, and so I chose a different route.

I posted the following message to my small group of personal friends on Facebook:

“Going through a transformational time, and I’d like your support…

For many reasons, too often people are afraid to ask for what they want and need. That’s just plain silly though, since there’s a neverending well of support available to us for the asking.

So I’m asking!

“Please write a comment (or PM or text me) about something you like / love / appreciate about me.”

It’s important to notice I didn’t ask for help or well-wishes. That wasn’t the support I personally needed in that moment.

My heart was broken and I needed to feel loved. I needed to feel the fullness of my heart so that I could love myself back together again.

The comments people wrote were really touching and a powerful reminder of who I am, how I impact people, and the way I show up in the world.

And the reason I’m sharing this with you is because there are a LOT of ways that we often don’t ask for the support we want and need. Yet there’s so much available to us when we reach out and actually let people into our world… into our hearts.

So next time you find yourself feeling unsupported, look around and be curious what support might actually be available to you…

If you were to only ask.

Would You Choose Love Or Fear?

Will You Choose Love Or Fear?

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Here's a hypothetical situation that I hope nobody ever has to experience…

Suppose a terrorist has taken you and your family hostage, and this terrorist says:

"You have two choices. Choice #1: Walk away from your family and I'll spare all your lives. The only catch is, you can never talk to them again.

"Or you can take Choice #2: Go through a series of extensive challenges and tests. They're some of the hardest in the world. The tests change as you take them. And they could take you months or even years to complete.

"During your testing period, you won't see your family at all. If you pass all of the tests, I will set you and your family free. If you don't pass, I will kill you and torture your family for several years."

Sure it's a very extreme example. But it serves to answer one simple question: When faced with extreme adversity, will you choose love or fear?

It's easy to choose love when life is good. And even during times of normal adversity, choosing love doesn't have to be difficult. However, it's when life gets the most difficult that we have to decide if we'll continue on the path of love or if we will identify with fear. That's not an easy decision to make. It seems like it should be.

Choose love, right? Always choose love?

Except for two things. First, we have a lot of historical programming that directs our attention towards fear. Secondly, the example above challenges the notion that we always know the best way to express love.

One of those choices guarantees that everybody lives… but doesn't guarantee they live happily. Maybe they do after healing from the trauma and separation. Maybe the trauma and separation destroy their lives. You can't be certain. That choice expresses love through a guarantee of protection. The outcome is certain. Unfortunately, the rewards are limited.

The other choice expresses love through courage. The path is uncertain. The outcome is uncertain. And the rewards are limitless. Another way of asking the "love or fear" question is this: Is the greatest risk worth the greatest reward?

Like I said, it's an extreme example. The thing is though, it's not so far off from reality. We are making these kinds of smaller decisions every single day.

Will you be totally authentic with your partner?
– Risk: Rejection, conflict, and pain, destruction of family.
– Reward: Profound intimacy and unbridled happiness.

Will you give your employer (or business) 100%?
– Risk: Going unnoticed, failure, being overworked, bankruptcy, and more.
– Reward: Increased pay, promotions, flourishing business, global change.

Will you dedicate your life to personal transformation?
– Risk: Wasted time, ineffective results, wasted money, disillusionment.
– Reward: A life of peace, joy, happiness, and love.

In each example, the choice is between love and fear.

Most people give "just enough" to their relationships, their work, and their personal transformation efforts. It's almost like the example above: They are identifying with just enough fear so that they protect themselves with limited rewards. They aren't choosing to giving themselves fully to the world and thereby reaping the greatest rewards possible.

We can't always know the risks and rewards in advance. Life is too uncertain, too fluid, to mysterious for that. What we can know are our values. We can practice risk versus reward and love versus fear in smaller safe situations. Then we can work up to bigger situations.

Practice being authentic with a llfe coach or best friend. Practice giving 100% to a new business adventure in your spare time. Practice devoting 6 months to a single personal transformation program without distraction. For just a brief period in your life, in a safe context, simply choose unconditional unrestrained love.

See if the risks are worth the rewards. See if love conquers fear. Find out what's true for you.

New Year's Blessing

A New Year’s Blessing For You

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

As we come upon the new year, it’s a time when most of us make resolutions…

Whether it’s to change some of our lifestyle habits that no longer serve us…

Negative thinking that gets in the way of achieving our dreams…

Or to let go of something in the past and make room for new joys and gifts.

No matter what you may be resolving, and even if you’re not making any, I have a short yet powerful blessing to support you in this new year.

Welcome to 2016!Together, we can make this a reality… let's share this blessing and watch it multiply <3 <3 <3

Posted by Positive Affirmations For A Better Life on Friday, January 1, 2016

Rise Into Love

Rise Into Love

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Earlier this year, I was asked a special favor: To write the main wedding reading for a couple whom I had never met.

As I reflected on this request, a request in most cases I’d have denied (I simply don’t have the time or bandwidth to continually grant all the requests people make), this one landed in my heart and I said yes.

I had a few months, yet no words came. I trusted the Divine to flow through me when the time was right…

Right up until the deadline. The very last day I had to send over the reading. Still no words (unless you count the email reminding me it was the last day!)

As I started to write, the words wouldn’t flow. That’s when I remembered what I teach about Writer’s Block within my Conscious Chronicling program: When the words don’t flow, it just means something isn’t aligned. Writer’s block is nothing more than not being tuned in to the Present moment completely.

I paused and realized the answer was so simple: Instead of writing, I was to speak the words. I started the voice recorder on my phone, and here is the final version of what the Divine flowed through me. I hope you enjoy it, and that it supports you in your own adventures with love…

“Rise Into Love” © Chris Cade 2015

You are a beautiful example of what a committed loving partnership looks like. And until today, both of you have continued to fall in love with one another. In doing so, it can be easy to believe that you are separate individuals falling in love together and taking the next step. That’s one way to see things.

Look deeper. Look deeper at how both of you will rise into love.

You may think you came together in marriage for specific reasons. Perhaps because your wife is compassionate, playful, and generous. Or because your husband is a true romantic who balances the gifts and needs of family with being a caring and attentive partner.

Those reasons are valid. They are also just the beginning. Let’s rise further…

Right now, notice the physical sensations in your heart. Notice what love feels like in this moment.

This sensation is your anchor in marriage. It is a reminder of the love that you both bring forth.

When you remember this moment, it is not important to remember who you married or even why. Both of those will change. Just remember this direct experience of love in your hearts.

Remember to rise into love. Remember to see the best in your spouse. You will show the world and yourselves what an extraordinary marriage looks like when love is your anchor. When you stop falling and you start rising.

You will also show yourselves what the two of you can cocreate when love is at the center of all you do and who you choose to be.

Rise into love.

As you know, there will also be difficult times. There will be times when your minds try to push each other away. To push you apart. This is what happens when you love deeply with all of your being. Because when you love with full hearts, all that is not love will try to stop you. All that is not true and authentic will try to get in the way. This comes from fear.

In your marriage, choose to rise above this fear. Know that when it shows up -and it will- you can choose to see things differently. In those moments, ask yourselves one simple question:

What will liberate the most love right now?

Ask this, and you will discover gifts previously unimaginable.

Seek not to own or control your partner. Marriage is not a license to possess. Do not even seek to get your needs met. Instead ask yourselves: how will you rise into love and meet your spouse’s true needs?

These are not likely to be the needs that you imagine. Maybe not even the ones that you speak to one another. They arise from the depths within each of you.

Your true needs are the treasures that this marriage empowers you to find, honor, and give. They empower you to bring out the unique best in one another. They support you to rise into love more than you can possibly imagine.

The two of you are together for a reason. Live that reason. Be that reason. And always above all else, never assume you know what that reason is.

The mystery of love will show you why you are together in marriage. Your only job in marriage, if there were one, is to ask the questions that deepen your love for one another. Every single day, ask questions that bring out the best in each other and in your marriage. Ask questions that liberate the most love.

Now look into each others eyes again. Notice the sensations of love in your heart. Feel your heart expand until it includes your spouse.

This is the true love that you are marrying into. This is the true love that you are rising into.

Together, rise into this love.

After reading this, other people have asked if they may use this reading at a wedding they are speaking at…

To every person who has this heartfelt response, I am deeply honored for your connection to this work and am grateful to support you in sharing it with your loved ones. You may use it under two conditions: First, is that it is not modified in any way (except for my recommendation below) and secondly is that I am acknowledged as the author. That said, just remember to make the following minor changes and you’re good to go! ๐Ÿ™‚

Instead of wife/husband in the following paragraph, use the actual names of the bride and groom (or bride/bride or groom/groom if appropriate):

You may think you came together in marriage for specific reasons. Perhaps because BRIDE’S NAME is compassionate, playful, and generous. Or because GROOM’S NAME is a true romantic who balances the gifts and needs of family with being a caring and attentive partner.

Secondly, you may replace the 3 qualities “compassionate, playful, and generous” with the qualities of the bride you most admire, and the “true romantic who balances the gifts and needs of family with being a caring and attentive partner” with the qualities of the groom that you most admire. This will give the reading a more personalized feel, while still staying true to its essence.

Follow Your Dreams

I Was Scared… And I Didn’t Even Know It!

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Today I watched a very touching video about a mother who gave up her dreams of becoming a pro athlete so that she could raise her son.

And it got me wondering…

How often do we give up on our dreams (big or small)?

When I'm really honest with myself, every day I'm letting some of my dreams slide by.

Part of me is unconsciously aware of this. And occasionally it rises to my conscious surface like it did this last weekend.

I was networking with several of my friends (including Mary Morrissey's son Mat) & colleagues about how to serve you more effectively. During a lull, I wrote myself a simple question on a piece of paper:

"What is the reason why I am not accomplishing as much as I know I'm capable of?"

The answer surprised me…

"Fear."

So I asked myself…

"What am I scared of?"

First was a temporary lack of income. A part of me is scared that if I truly follow ALL of what I know my heart wants to create, that it means sacrificing some short-term income for long-term goals (that my mind believes are "less predictable" than the short-term income).

I asked myself again…

"What am I scared of?"

Then the REAL answer hit me.

See, I'm a single full-time father. I work when my son is at school and then I stop working. And while that is an amazing opportunity to be a great father, like all choices, it has an opportunity cost.

The voice inside me simply said:

"I'm scared that my son would feel abandoned."

(because the belief is that I'd have to work more and therefore have less time for my son)

That hit me like a ton of bricks. I had already known that part of the reason I didn't work as much as I could was to be there for my son.

My fear though, specifically, is that he'd feel abandoned. He'd feel like I wasn't a "good enough" father. That someday instead of thanking me for how I was always there for him, he'd resent me for not being there enough.

Anybody who knows me intimately would be surprised by that answer since I truly am a great father.

But the simple fact is that my mind was TRAPPED. And I didn't even see the trap until yesterday when I started looking deeper for the truth.

Maybe you're like me and wish to create more in your life?

Perhaps your dream is reaching a new level of financial abundance, elevating your health and fitness, pursuing your dream job or dream business, moving to a new city, traveling the world, finding your soulmate, or up-leveling and deepening your relationships?

But no matter how much of your precious time, money or emotional energy you put into trying to make your dream come true, you just stayed stuck right where you were?

Yeah. I hear you. Been there. Am there. Been that. Was doing that.

And I'm changing it because that I *KNOW* what's up.

You can too.

Watch this video on the 3 dream "traps" and how you can avoid them.

When you put so much effort towards making one of your dreams come true, but you're unable to create the results you want… this can leave you feeling frustrated, disappointed… and sometimes even embarrassed.

I know I've felt this way before. And as you can see, occasionally I still do.

The above video is the 2nd one from Mary Morrissey in her DreamBuilder video training series. After you watch Mary's video above you'll finally understand what was REALLY blocking your dream from becoming your reality (it's usually 1 of 3 things)…

And you'll know exactly how to avoid these "dream traps" when pursuing your dreams in the future. ๐Ÿ™‚

Join me in the pursuit of being UNSTOPPABLE.

Unstoppable in achieving our dreams…

Unstoppable in living up to our greatest potential…

And unstoppably happy. ๐Ÿ™‚

I'm sure you've heard the saying "you can't have your cake and eat it too."

I think it's bullshit.

But until we train our minds, bodies, and spirits to go for our dreams then we'll never see past the illusion. We'll just stay stuck in limitation, lack, and frustration.

I refuse to stay trapped and stuck. It's just not worth the stress. Maybe you agree?

Brendon Burchard

10 factors PREDICT if you will achieve your goals every time

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Surprisingly, just 10 decisions you make can predict if you'll succeed pursuing any goal or dream. They also predict if you or your family/team will even TRY to pursue a goal.

If you have a big vision for your life…

And you want to KNOW if you're likely to achieve it, be sure to get this free download from Brendon Burchard:

10 Factors PREDICT If You Will Achieve Your Goals Every Time

This is the same "predictor tool" Brendon uses with his $50,000 coaching clients.

I've read his book "Millionaire Messenger" (#1 NY Times Best-Seller). Over 30 million people have watched his videos in the last year. And my friends and colleagues all rave about him and his work.

If you find you're struggling in any of the areas of the assessment, Brendon gives TONS of insight on how to get back on track.

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I'm watching (technically 'listening to') it right now, and it's REALLY good stuff.

Brendon is reminding me to focus back on what makes me feel alive, productive, engaged, and to step towards my maximum potential.

And here's some of what you'll get out of this free resource…

  • #1 reason most people fail to achieve a goal
     
  • Which factors predict success the MOST
     
  • Why "planning" isn't as useful as you would imagine
     
  • How high performers develop VISION
     
  • How to discern what you REALLY want
     
  • WHEN it's time to quit on a goal

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