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You “Shouldn’t” Have Preferences

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

In many spiritual paths, great value is placed on becoming a person with no preferences…

This is an extension of the ideas around detachment / unattachment and nonduality. The underlying premise (promise?) is that if we don't have preferences about how life "should" go, then we won't have to feel pain, disappointment, and the other negative emotions that take away our peace and inner well-being.
    
You know what I have to say about that?

In most cases, it's total hogwash!

I don't know about you, but I kind of like having preferences. ๐Ÿ™‚

Suggesting that I "shouldn't" love chocolate, raw milk, sunshine, the beach, and my son is pretty ridiculous in my book.

While I don't claim to know the Divine purpose of life, nor can I explain lots of Universal happenings and mysteries, I do know one thing:

No matter what's happening, if at all possible then I might as well enjoy the ride!

More seriously though, I think a lot of people who subscribe to the "no preferences" theory are mistaking the difference between preference and the attachment to their preferences.

I absolutely love chocolate and have it both in my breakfast cereal as well as periodically throughout the day. And quite honestly, I prefer chocolate over vanilla.

That doesn't make vanilla bad. Nor will my peace of mind and heart be shattered if I never had chocolate again.
    
And I still prefer chocolate. ๐Ÿ™‚

When we are totally Present and living in the moment, we also discover something really special about preferences:

They are actually expressions of us being drawn to what we love.

Let that sink in for a moment.

Coming full circle…

"Enlightenment" isn't about becoming a mindless automaton who "has no preferences." That's no more enlightened than an ameoba. 

Enlightenment is quite the opposite…

It includes being a mindful, conscious present being who is totally in touch with his/her preferences.

(even when those preferences aren't manifested)

What If You Stopped Being Yourself? (Part 2)

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

ThistleIn my last blog post, I shared how when faced with a dilemma regarding my appearance and my Inner Critic, I chose an unconventional path. Instead of choosing Options 1 or 2, I chose Option 3. The obvious Option 3 would be to walk into a nearby store, purchase a new pair of pants, put them on, and continue with my day. Had I been going someplace else, it's possible I'd have chosen that option. It's reasonable.
 
For the purposes of my inner growth and development though, that option would have been no different than Option 1. Simply buying a new pair of pants would have been the spiritual equivalent of overmedicating myself with the lies about positive thinking. Buying my way out of the situation would have been a metaphorical band-aid.

Not to say that's the wrong choice. Not at all. It's just not one that would have challenged me to explore my inner terrain further. It wouldn't have given me the opportunity to deepen my personal transformation.

Another reasonable option would be to pause and sew up the whole (if I had a needle and thread with me). That's also a reasonable option. If I pressed for time, that option would have challenged me to explore my inner relationship with time. I don't carry around a needle and thread in my wallet though. There are other options which have varying degrees of impact on our spiritual development.
 
For me though, the choice was obvious. I reached towards the back of my pants, found the hole…

And made it much MUCH larger. ๐Ÿ™‚

It was an opportunity to answer a very simple question: If I make my situation more extreme, will my Inner Critic also get a little more vocal?

One of the best ways I know to deepen my spiritual transformation is to explore extreme situations (whenever it's safe to do so). Extreme situations pull us out of the familiar "Who I take myself to be" identity and give us an opportunity to become "somebody else." Not literally. Figuratively though, we get to explore the answer to my question "What if I stopped being myself?"

A few years ago, tearing my pants into a larger hole is something I'd have never done. My fears would have overwhelmed and incapacitated me. I'd probably have turned around and gone home. Not this day though. What I discovered was interesting. In addition to not caring about the hole at all, I had an unexpected experience: joy and delight.

Although my Inner Critic didn't have an opinion, my True Nature was clear:

Stepping outside my comfort zone…

Choosing to not be "myself" for a little while…
 
Brought me a sense of profound freedom.

The LIE About Positive Thinking

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

You’ve heard it all before…

“Think more positively and you’ll get what you want. Visualize, affirm, and manifestation will happen effortlessly. Oh and be sure to overcome those pesky limiting beliefs! Affirmations, gratitude, and positive thinking will cover that one for you. Life is easy if you just think positively enough!”

I have one word to say about that kind of positive thinking…

The Lie About Positive ThinkingLIE.

Delusional.

Misleading.

Uninformed.

Detrimental.

Okay, so by the time my subconscious was done ranting I discovered I had more than just one word. ๐Ÿ™‚

That’s not to say positive thinking is bad. It’s fundamentally important to living a happy, fulfilled, engaged life. However, the lie and myth is that positive thinking is all that’s needed.

The reality is that we have difficult and painful emotions for a reason. They arise out of a self-protective compassionate need to SERVE our selves more effectively. Like physical pain, emotional pain is a compass that helps us see when things aren’t quite working right inside ourselves.

When we ignore physical pain or mask it over with overmedication, our body degenerates and ultimately finds more pain (not less). The same is true when we use Positive Thinking as a form of “overmedication” for our soul.

By not honoring and owning our emotional pain, then our soul… our heart… our spirit… call it what you will… ultimately will degenerate. Our psyche isn’t designed to repress and suppress pain indefinitely. That’s a big reason why some higly successful people have emotional breakdowns. They just kept overmedicating (or ignoring) until finally they couldn’t do it anymore.

The flip-side is equally as dangerous. When we completely identify with the negative painful thoughts, when we allow them to run our lives, to make us forget how magnificent we inherently are, then we also breakdown. We aren’t designed that way either.

Instead, I suggest accepting and acknowledging painful emotions as a compass – like a thermometer – to help you more effectively focus your attention and energy. Notice the “warning signs” that negative thinking presents to you. It’s not like I never have negative thoughts. I have them every day!

The thing is, I don’t take them so seriously. I strive to see them for what they are: helpful information that can point me TOWARDS living a happier and more positive life. They show me where more attention and self-care is needed in my life.

By using negative thoughts and painful emotions in that way, then the positive thinking is no longer a crutch – it’s no longer an addictive medicine that silently degenerates us until it’s too late.

Instead, positive thinking becomes a support to help you through the negative thoughts and ultimately take your happiness to the next level.

The Truth walk

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Truth WalkAs Morpheus says in The Matrix, “There’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.” This is the greatest challenge any of us have on the path of personal transformation. How do we live what we believe to be true?

The first step is fundamental to my teachings: Don’t take anybody’s word for it. Not even mine. Find out what is true for yourself.

Sure, it helps to have insights and pointers. Programs, videos, emails, audio interviews, live seminars, and so on are wonderful ways to get closer to people who have discovered the Truths that you want to embody. Still, all of those are… pointers. Only you can “walk” the path as Morpheus says.

With that in mind, here’s a quick exercise I call “The Truth Walk” to help you discover what is actually true for you. It’s rather simple, and you can do it anytime and every time you’re walking. Here’s how it works.

First, bring into your awareness a spiritual Truth or lesson you’d like to embody more fully. I think that Dan Millman’s “Laws of Spirit” and Deepak Chopra’s “7 Spiritual Laws of Success” (and “7 Spiritual Laws Of Superheros”) are excellent places to find a few key “lessons” or insights.

Once you have decided which Truth to explore more fully, bring it into your awareness. Then go for a walk. If possible, go for an extended walk. And ideally in nature. As you walk, feel your feet with each and every step.

Some people refer to this as a walking meditation. However, the twist is this:

Every time your attention fades away from the lesson you’re exploring, feel your feet stepping on the ground again. Then bring your awareness back to the lesson.

This exercise has a couple of wonderful benefits. The first is that you are practicing being more present and in your body. Since your body is the vehicle by which you live in this world, it’s also the means by which you discover the Truth of your experience. Your mind is powerful and can “know” the path. Your body is your lifeforce, and it’s how you “walk” the path.

(and quite literally in this example!)

The second major benefit of this exercise is this:

When you bring anything into your awareness long enough, and you infuse it with your physical experience, the Truth will reveal itself to you naturally. Maybe you’ll discover that Dan Millman and Deepak Chopra are totally full of crap! ๐Ÿ™‚ Or maybe you’ll transform your life faster than they did, simply because you are benefiting from them sharing their experience with you.

Whatever you discover, it’ll be true for you. And that’s what matters most because when we get right down to it, you’re the one who has to live with yourself twenty-four hours per day, seven days per week… for the rest of your life.

Enlightenment Support

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

As you know, a lot of popular Law of Attraction teachers focus a lot on what you can get. And as you know, while I'm all for "getting" more "stuff," I really believe the most important "stuff" we can "get" is to experience our True Nature more fully.

That's why in all the challenges I'm going through right now, I'm not really focusing on the "outer stuff" that I don't feel I can get or have. Those external desires are just mirrors for what I truly want, which is to develop myself for fully… to become a more integrated human being… to live abundantly from the inside-out.
    
The way I see it is this:

The QUALITIES we want to live with (like Strength, Courage, and Willpower) ~ are something we can develop, and therefore have access to and bring with us into every single moment of every single day.

Meanwhile, the STUFF we want to live with (money, houses, cars, etc) ~ are something we can acquire, and therefore, can also lose. If our happiness is depending on what we manifest, we're setting ourselves up for a life of pain.

So I always advocate first manifesting qualities and experiences before going for the stuff.

With that in mind, I recently connected with somebody who is helping bridge the gap between enlightenment and manifestation.  His name is Jafree Ozwald, and his approach to manifesting is similar in many ways to mine. He focuses first on doing the inner work and WHO we have to be before focusing on what we can get.

He's also giving away what he calls his "Enlightenment Support System" that you can download from his site. In it, he gives you:

(1) A Manifesting Meditation MP3 audio
(2) The 1st chapter of his "Manifesting Manual"
(3) 30 Days of Enlightening Messages

Click Here And Get It For Free

Candidly speaking, my favorite is actually the enlightening messages. Jafree and I share the same basic disposition: Always deliver great content first. Then, if people want to take the next step and make a purchase they can. But always always always, I seek to first enrich peoples' lives and make a difference.

The fact that his messages are a wealth of knowledge is testament to that. If you're curious what you can expect after you sign up for your "Enlightenment Support System," the passage below is a brief yet typical example.

"Anytime you are looking outside yourself for the answers to your problems or things that you want to manifest in your life, you are looking in the wrong direction.  Sure, there is a Universe "out there" yet the way to master it is by first discovering how to explore the one "in here".

When you first start looking within yourself you may not find anything there for many moons to come. This is a test, and to be expected. For those who are truly on the spiritual path you will soon discover  the most amazing loving gentle sweet energy within you. It is from this place that all the answers flood in. Yes!

The secrets to mastering this Universe can only be found by those who are willing to look within. You do not have to go far at all to find what your soul is looking for.  Everything is already set up in such an absolutely perfect and divine way.

Rest, relax and you will soon be embracing the infinite being you already are."

– Jafree Ozwald, Enlightenment Support System

Click Here For More Free Enlightenment Support

Are You Sick And Tired Of “Tolerating” People?

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

FrustratedA couple of weeks ago, I shared with you Guy Finley's story "The Devil's Plan for Destruction" and some of my initial thoughts on that story about "tolerance."

If you haven't yet read that, click here and read it first so that the rest of this conversation makes sense.
    
In a nutshell, I wrote that "tolerance" is a form of hypocrisy where we are nice to people we really don't want to be nice to. We're nice and "tolerate" the person because we are scared what will happen if we don't "tolerate" the person.
    
Specifically, I wrote:

"We continue to be hypocrites because the Inner Critic's expectation of discomfort of conflict and disruption is greater than the authentic inner drive to align our conscious and subconscious minds with our actions."

Many people responded disagreeing with what I wrote. People feared losing their jobs if they didn't "tolerate" their bosses. People fear losing loved ones if they don't "put up with" the aspects of people they don't like.

In other words, tolerance is viewed as a "necessary evil" if we are to survive in the world. It wasn't until I wrote "necessary evil" that I realized how perfectly titled Guy Finley's story is…

"The Devil's Plan for Destruction"

Tolerance IS destructive, both inwardly towards ourselves and outwardly towards the world. It creates a facade in which authenticity is lost, and personal power is replaced with fear of change and feelings of insecurity.

That said, it's important to realize that there are two ways to look at resolving the hypocrisy. One way is to take actions that are authentic expressions of how you already feel. For example:

  • If you feel angry, you respond with aggression and harshness…
  • If you feel you've been judged unfairly or been mistreated, you stand up for yourself…
  • If you feel unimportant, you tell people how hurt you feel…

In those examples, "taking action" is one way to no longer be a hypocrite. That may work sometimes, and it may be the appropriate course of action in some circumstances. Your outer expression is an accurate reflection of your inner experience. That approach will bring your thoughts, feelings, and actions into integrity.

Though if you're feeling so rageful that you really want to kill somebody, acting on that would quickly cause irreversible harm to many people and land you in prison.

(or the electric chair if you live in Texas)
 
So in extreme case, resolving hypocrisy issues through action could potentially lead to very negative and undesireable consequences… more undesireable than the discomfort or pain we feel while staying in the hypocritical state of silently wishing ill-will towards others while outwardly acting kindly.

That's why the Inner Critic does not want you to resolve hypocrisy and inner conflicts. The more conflict the Inner Critic can create within you, the more easily it can keep you controlled within the boundaries of fear. The Inner Critic has very specific ideas about the "worst case scenario" that will unfold when you take actions to bring your feelings and inner world into integrity with your outer world.

Therefore, I recommend before you take action in the outer world to resolve your feelings of "tolerance" and the associated inner hypocrisy, explore another option:

Do "real inner work."
 
This is equally as fearful to the Inner Critic whose goal is to keep you small, safe, and surviving (in whatever form it thinks is best for you). See, the real issue around tolerance is the hypocrisy: Or put another way, the INNER experience we have which causes us to feel one way and then act another.

Tolerance by nature lacks compassion and authentic kindness.

Tolerance covers over our hearts with coldness, and it's that coldness which causes us to act without integrity ~ that causes us to act one way while feeling another. That coldness is experienced as an insensitivity we have to the world around us, and to our experience in the world.

That is a real conflict within that we have at a deep and primal level.

And our Inner Critic is terribly frightened that ~ if we stop tolerating people ~ we will have to come face to face with that conflict.
 
Why?

Because if we do real inner work, what happens is that our coldness, our distance, our anger and frustration, get transformed into personal empowerment. We learn how to be truly present in the moment and to accept people as they are.

When that happens, miracles happen.

That's because our inner coldness is transformed into, dare I say it, a form of love. More specifically, compassion as a form of love.

We begin to understand how much pain, difficulty, and harshness other people live with. We begin to understand why we "used to" have so much difficulty "tolerating" people.

And because of our transformed state — because we've done the inner work — we can't help but love them and hold space for their wellness, even if they are acting in ways that are not in alignment with our values or what we consider to be "higher" values.

By shifting away from 'tolerance' and transforming that inner conflict into kindness and love, we can then act in integrity. We can smile and hug those who used to 'annoy' us the most. We can forgive those who hurt us… even before they hurt us (so to speak). We can work for the bosses who criticize our work.

And that's all possible because we develop a kind of unconditional love for others, we recognize the difficulties we all face as humans, and we realize that sometimes a smile and a kind word are all it takes to transform a negative experience into a heartful one.

Now to circle back…

I'm not advocating that just because we do inner work and resolve our "tolerance" hypocrisy that we'll stay in negative, destructive, or hurtful situations.

But instead of reacting negatively, we will have the inner peace of heart and mind, and the personal power, to more fully explore which aspects of our life must fall away.

We can see which relationships are fulfilling and need to be deepened. We then know intuitively when to engage more fully with an experience. And we know when to disengage from something (such as a negative person or situation).

After transforming our inner tolerance / hypocrisy / conflict, it may be appropriate to give people their distance when they judge harshly, while other times it may be appropriate to engage and speak our voice.

It may be appropriate to quit our job, or alternatively it may be right to talk with the HR department about how our manager is mistreating us.

We can act in all of those ways with compassion and kindness in our hearts.

AND…

Because those kinds of outcomes are possible as a result of doing real inner work to resolve conflicts and discomfort within yourself, the Inner Critic has intense fear and tries to keep you from doing real inner work.

But if we react purely out of our past conditioning (which includes tolerance), then we'll never know the truly best outcome for a situation. We'll continue to be driven by Inner Critic thoughts of how we "should" be to try and avoid what we fear is the worst-case outcome of taking action to resolve conflicts.

Tolerance doesn't give us the power to take real, purposeful, personally powerful action. Tolerance disempowers us because our actions are not in alignment with our values and inner Truths. THAT is the real conflict. That's the "inside job" that has to be worked on if we are to ever have the peace of mind to live in a world which is constantly hurling conflict after conflict at us.

When you do "real inner work," I can't promise that the negative situations in your life will get resolved the way you ideally think they "should." What I can promise though, is that your inner world will transform in such fundamentally amazing and powerful ways that you'll be more capable of moving forward in the world with the necessary strength, courage, and willpower to resolve the inner conflicts that arise no matter what outer experiences you may be having.

And now you know why my program is called "Liberate Your Life."

Because your life — your inner life — is the one you have to live with until the day you die.

You can't liberate the world…

You can't liberate your annoying boss…

You can't liberate your disrespectful family members…

And you can't even liberate your significant others when they "just don't get it."

But you can Liberate Your Life because your life — your inner life — is the one thing you can develop total control over how you experience.

Click Here And Learn More About Liberate Your Life

4 Free Videos From Spiritual Masters ~ Compliments of Janet Attwood

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

Janet Attwood: Daily Dose of Enlightenment

Earlier this year I connected in person with Janet Attwood, and quite frankly… I was SURPRISED by what I discovered.

Most people know her as an inspirational speaker, conscious entrepreneur, heartful humanitarian, and as the co-author of the New York Times Best-Selling "The Passion Test."

But that wasn't what I saw…

Janet's presence literally -elevated- my consciousness simply be being with her. A few minutes simply being with Janet one-on-one actually changed my life… not because of what she said or did, but because of WHO she was.

For weeks I tried to put my finger on it. Why Janet? Why me? Why now? Why…?

Then I figured it out, and it made perfect sense!

What many people don't know about Janet is that she has done a LOT of spiritual work. She has meditated for about as long as I've been alive (maybe longer?), including studying with incredibly enlightened yet virtually unknown masters from around the globe.

Janet has had her consciousness elevated by those masters in ways similar to how she helped elevate my consciousness. Then a few months after Janet and I connected, she introduced me to a new piece of her work that virtually nobody knows about. It's one of those hidden gems and she asked me if I'd share it with you to see what you thought.

After experiencing her "Daily Dose of Enlightenment" myself, I knew I wanted to share this with more people. I asked Janet if she had a way I could introduce you to her work for free, and so she had her team set up a special page where you can get four complimentary videos.

Click Here Now For Your Free Enlightenment Videos

What are these "Daily Dose" videos?

Over the years, Janet has actually recorded interviews with her most cherished masters… the people who have helped deepen her spirtual path. Now what she's done is taken those videos and broken them down into little 1 to 20 minute "doses" that she delivers to your email inbox every single day.

The link above will get you 4 complimentary videos in her series. And immediately after you sign up – in addition to your free videos – Janet is also going to invite you to join her full 1-year "Daily Dose of Enlightenment" program at a significant discount.

Normally the membership to her series is reasonably priced at about $10 per month ($120 per year), but right now because she's newly introducing this program Janet is making the entire year's worth of videos available at a 58% discount (only $50 for a year instead of the normal $120 price).

Right now I've been a member for a couple of months and I just LOVE receiving the video messages each day… messages that encourage and support me to inquire deeper into my own experience as a person.

When you get a chance, click the link below and grab your four complimentary "Daily Dose" videos so you can experience them for yourself:

Click Here Now For Your Complimentary Enlightenment Videos

If you're like me and want to have ongoing spiritual support from virtually unknown masters with incredible wisdom, then after you register for your free videos then definitely read Janet's letter inviting you to join the full year-long program at the incredibly discounted price… it's well worth it, and I'm glad I joined. ๐Ÿ™‚

God Is FORCING Me To Move To Texas!

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To say that my life has been going through massive changes over the last few years would be an understatement. Ever since embarking upon a spiritual journey, ever since truly embracing the quest to discover the Truth of who I am, it seems that God has decided to test me.

God asks me questions like…

“Are you sure you really want this?”

“Even if it doesn’t look like you want it to?”

“What if you don’t get what you think you want? Will you still love me?”

These last four years haven’t been easy… I’ll have been married, had a child, started my spiritual journey, divorced, lost my home, lost the next home I moved into, moved 5 times to 3 different states away from my friends and family, left the new friends I met in those states, and was laid off (voluntarily) from my job.

It sounds terrible right?

My financial and personal lives were pretty much obliterated.

I lost much of who I was…

And fortunately, through those challenges I have found much of who I am today.

This latest challenge from God is merely another chapter in my life story… a story asking me whether or not I will choose to step up and be the hero of my life… or whether I will just wither small and let life pass me by. God asks me if I will follow my passions or whether I will let those also wither and die.

Changes like these have the potential to crush a person and make them feel like less of who they are. I know that’s what I felt for a while, and yet, they’ve also helped me to realize who I TRULY am (not who I thought I was).

This latest change has me moving from my current location of Portland Oregon out to a Houston Texas suburb.

Why you might ask?

Well, the short version is that my former wife is pregnant and she will be moving to Texas to have the support of her primary and extended families. She and I both share an incredible 3 1/2 year old son, so I am moving to Texas to be close to him.

On the surface it looks like I have a choice whether or not to move, right?

When I share this story with other people, some people seem surprised that I am just having my life dictated to me by her. After all, I don’t HAVE to move to Texas if I don’t want to… I’ve built friends and a life here in Portland. It would be easy to resist this change and put up a strong opposition to try and make her stay here in Oregon so I can hold onto my comfortable precious life situation. Or alternatively I could just choose to let her move, and then go visit my son every few months.

However, to only view myself as the main character of my life story is leaving out something far more important to me… the TRUTH.

My son is my number one priority.

His happiness, his development, come first in my life. And I know that whatever it takes to support him is equally a priority. I know that she is not going to feel (or be) effectively supported here in Portland, not with her family a half a country away while she’s pregnant with child and already raising a toddler. I know that if she’s not feeling effectively supported, that will affect our son in significant negative ways.

If I’m serious about my priorities, then my actions need to back that up… by being with my son in the ways that support him, including consciously supporting those people who also support him. It’s not enough to be the best father I can be, if I’m not also acknowledging and being conscious of how my influence affects all the other people in his life.

Then I look at other priorities… my spiritual development, and candidly speaking, yours. I know my spiritual school (The Diamond Approach) is worldwide and I am already looking at ways I can continue participating in the school after my move. That won’t go away, the only thing that may change is where I attend my workshops.

And your development… well, I can create my websites, products, and share these thoughts via email, Facebook, and Twitter from anywhere in the world. So I can’t exactly use my job as an excuse not to move. ๐Ÿ™‚

In other words ~ when I look for the REAL reasons why I wouldn’t want to move, it’s because of my attachment to the life I’ve been creating here in Portland. The thing is, I know myself… and I can build a life ANYWHERE I go; it doesn’t just have to be in a specific place. That’s because life isn’t really something we build, but rather, something we experience in every moment regardless of where we are or who we’re with.

So when God asks me, “Is your son really your number one priority?” I answer YES and willingly move to Texas to be near him without question. Not because I’m being “forced” to by anybody, not because I don’t have options, but because deep down I know what’s important to me and I guide my life by it.

Which leads me to the most interesting points…

What is most important in your life?

And do you truly live in a way that makes sure that aspect of your life is your “Center of the Universe” so to speak?

Like I said, sometimes God will challenge you. God will ask you if you REALLY want what you desire. God will test you to see how much you really want it, and which hoops you are willing to go through to get it.

In my case, I’ve known that my son is my number one priority. And that means that when the outer circumstances of my son’s life changes, so must mine. It means that when his mother moves half a country away, God says to me “I SUPPORT YOU.” Not by giving me what I think I want, but in this case, by taking away the things that won’t support my heart’s desires.

I was laid off from my job… now I can work from anywhere.

And I lost my home… now I can live anywhere.

Even when it looked like God was destroying my life, what was really happening is that he was preparing me for the future. He was laying an important foundation for me to follow my dreams of having an amazing relationship with my son, an amazing relationship with myself, and of course an amazing relationship with you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Those are my three priorities, and God has supported me in keeping those at the center of my Universe. All other decisions are just minor details when I keep those priorities as the focus of my life.

That’s why moving to Texas is largely irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. It looks like a big change, but really it’s rather minor…

Because when we know what our priorities truly are, anything that doesn’t support those priorities really isn’t worth getting upset over.

With that in mind, just take a few moments to get clear on your priorities… your real heart-felt deep priorities. What is it you truly value in the world? Then look at what it takes to keep those priorities at the center of the Universe.

When you do, you’ll find that all the other decisions you have to make in life become much much easier – not because life won’t challenge you – but because when it does challenge you, all you have to ask is…

What is TRULY important to me?

Spiritual Book Review: The Shadow Effect by Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford, and Marianne Williamson

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Books

  Spiritual Book Review: The Shadow Effect by Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford, and Marianne Williamson

The Shadow Effect provides much needed insight into the phenomenon that we’ve all experienced in our life: self-sabotage… and more specifically, why it is people seem to sabotage themselves right when they’re on the brink of greatness.

Bringing together the wisdom of three of today’s sages, Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford, and Marianne Williamson, we’re given a glimpse into the ‘shadow’ in different ways that all work together very well. What is the shadow? In a nutshell, these are the aspects of ourselves that we have cut off, hidden, repressed, or decided were not acceptable to show other people.

The shadow is the part of us that feels unsafe being authentic, and The Shadow Effect provides wonderful insight into how each of us developed our shadow, how we can learn to identify it in our lives, and what we can do to move through our shadow and into the light of our greatness.

In fact, at the core of this book are the themes of light and greatness… because the shadow is the one thing that stands in the way of us living the lives of our dreams. The Shadow Effect clearly communicates this core message that the shadow is not be feared, but rather, to be viewed as an essential aspect of ourselves that we must understand and transform into light if we are to move forward in the story of our lives.

The Shadow Effect gets my personal recommendation, and I feel that the world would be a more light-filled place if everybody read this book.

Click here to buy it… then read it, live it, then share it with others you think may benefit from its message.

How to Understand A Course In Miracles

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 A Course In Miraclse

In an email, a student asked me a detailed question about some confusion he had from reading another book on A Course In Miracles. The book he read and the topic he was inquiring about are not relevant for what I will share with you. What is relevant is that his confusion stems from trying to interpret A Course In Miracles, instead of trying to understand it.

So what’s the difference? What does it mean to truly understand A Course In Miracles?

In my email to the student, I said:

“The most important thing about A Course In Miracles is not that we believe what it says, but that we understand ourselves in relation to what it says.”

This confused him even further…

But the interesting part is that his response makes perfect sense until we look at the issue more deeply. He replied:

“How can I understand myself in relation to what it says if my ‘understanding’ of it depends on what may be faulty assumptions, definitions, or reasoning? And how can I have some assurance of my assumptions, definitions, or reasoning if they are not supported by those who are more advanced than I in A Course In Miracles?”

On the surface, it makes sense to believe that we need a reference point through our understanding of A Course In Miracles, to then be able to understand how we relate to it. However, this is only true when we are only coming from a logical perspective. When we pay attention to ourselves, we can learn just as much from *not* knowing something, as we can from knowing it. This is what I was trying to communicate in my email response above.

If you’re anything like me, then my paragraph above needs some explanation. First, let’s look at the basis of A Course In Miracles: it is founded on the basic premise that it leads us to a place of living in the moment. That’s fundamentally what the teaching is attempting to move us toward when it says it is taking us “home.”

Many people spend a lot of time thinking about what A Course In Miracles is teaching and trying to interpret the words, instead of taking the words at face value and/or just feeling the words. To take words at anything other than face value is an assumption, and assumptions are based on the fact that we are not living in the present.

So, if we take the words at face value then there is not much to “think” about from the mental perspective. When we receive the words of A Course In Miracles then the only thing left to study is ourselves… to study our responses to what it says.

Let’s just take the first lesson as an example:

“Nothing I see means anything.

Now look slowly around you, and practice applying this idea very specifically to whatever you see:

Notice that these statements are not arranged in any order, and make no allowance for differences in the kinds of things to which they are applied. That is the purpose of the exercise. The statement should merely be applied to anything you see. As you practice the idea for the day, use it totally indiscriminately. Do not attempt to apply it to everything you see, for these exercises should not become ritualistic. Only be sure that nothing you see is specifically excluded. One thing is like another as far as the application of the idea is concerned.”

The thinking student will ask questions and will try to know what A Course In Miracles is teaching. However, the students who focus on understanding themselves in relation to the teaching will notice something else…. most often, a sense of resistance.

So in lesson 1, rather than a person trying to “learn” what A Course In Miracles teaches, my recommendation is to just do the lesson, as it is written, with as little conscious thinking as possible. In doing so, thoughts often arise such as, “This is stupid. How can I say this extremely sentimental item means nothing?” By observing our inner responses, such as that one, we learn MUCH more from A Course In Miracles than we do from the words within the lessons.

At its core, A Course In Miracles is a path leading us back to ourselves. As the Text introduction states, it is but one many paths all going to that very same place: to ourselves. Therefore, anything that is written in a lesson, at its core, is also intended to bring us back to ourselves. This is what I mean by “understanding ourselves in relation to what it says.”

Asking questions of others is helpful to know the logical and knowledge aspects of the teaching.

Asking questions of ourselves is how we “understand” and embody the teaching itself.

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