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“I’ve Never Had Even One Truly Loving Thought”

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Recently, Linda (one of our “Co-Creator” tier supporters) wrote the following question to me:

Thank you for al that you do…

I could really use some advice about sickness and sinless and how to deal with those illusions…the funny thing is that in so many ways I do not believe in sin but my “life” would probably say something contrary to that…

How can I undo the belief about it?

I know so many things but when it comes right down to it, I still see “people, bodies, sickness” and a whole lot of other things that I know are not real or true.

It’s obvious that in all these 40 years, I still have not had even one truly loving thought about anything…how is that possible?

I am open to everything that will help me understand the issues of sickness and sin and how to see everyone as healthy and sinless.

Here’s my reply…

First, I’d like to be clear that when it comes to the technical words & nuances of A Course In Miracles, I do not consider myself a “teacher.” I see myself as an advocate, a student, and a sharer of its wisdom.

Therefore, what I say might not be “true” ACIM teachings. What I will do is share my own perspectives, insights, and experience in hopes that it supports you and others.

Now about your questions…

These are some important questions, and in many ways, come about because of misunderstandings about A Course In Miracles.

The Course works in two levels. On one level, it speaks to our belief in the illusion. At this level, it talks about how we mis-perceive and mis-believe things and think them as real. It speaks to our pain, our relationships, our challenges, and our humanity.

At the next level, it speaks to our Divine mind, or as I call it, our True Nature. At this level, it speaks to our essence, our soul or spirit, a mind free of judgment and prejudice.

The challenge we have is that we see “sickness” and “sin” as real because we view them from that first level. However, ACIM in this context is speaking to our True Nature.

We hear the word “sickness” and immediately wish our body were healed. We read words from ACIM that say we can be healed of sickness if we stop seeing ourselves as bodies. (note: “Sickness” actually refers to a state of mind, not body)

All of these words are just ideas. They’re ideas that we collect in our minds. Over time, our minds believes these ideas to be true representations of reality.

Our mind even goes to far as to suggest, as your question asks, that we don’t even know what a “truly loving thought” is.

These are the trappings of the mind which tries to keep collecting ideas. These questions just feed the mind’s hope that if it collects enough ideas, eventually, the ideas will make it happy and peaceful.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

There is only one way to stop collecting these ideas…

There is only one way to see ourselves as sinless…

There is only one way to see ourselves free of sickness…

And there is only one way to have truly loving thoughts…

And that way is to return to the present moment.

Any and every practice that helps you return to the present moment is something that will support you in answering your questions with truth and reality, instead of just collecting more ideas.

In the present moment is the only place where the mind stops collecting, it calms down, and our True Nature can then be the means by which we directly perceive the world and our experience of life.

ACIM is just one of many teachings whose primary goal is to return us to the present moment. Eckhart Tolle’s “Power of Now” or the Diamond Approach are other ones. Ram Dass “Be Here Now” speaks to this.

The mind would even have us believe that if we read all those books and teachings, then eventually we will “learn how to be present.” Again, that’s just the mind wanting to collect more ideas from more sources. All of those sources are still just many different ways of saying the same thing: return to the present moment.

To truly be present only requires a sincere effort to return to the present moment, and some practices / habits / tools to help support that.

In that spirit, below is a link to several of my “morning walk” videos and other resources I’ve created about returning to the present moment. The more you actually apply any of it to your life, the more you’ll start to answer your own questions – in ways that work specifically for you.

Resources To Help You Return To The Present Moment

You also would benefit from two of my programs:

  1. “Instant Inner Peace”
  2. “Liberate Your Life”

What If You Stopped Being Yourself? (Part 2)

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

ThistleIn my last blog post, I shared how when faced with a dilemma regarding my appearance and my Inner Critic, I chose an unconventional path. Instead of choosing Options 1 or 2, I chose Option 3. The obvious Option 3 would be to walk into a nearby store, purchase a new pair of pants, put them on, and continue with my day. Had I been going someplace else, it's possible I'd have chosen that option. It's reasonable.
For the purposes of my inner growth and development though, that option would have been no different than Option 1. Simply buying a new pair of pants would have been the spiritual equivalent of overmedicating myself with the lies about positive thinking. Buying my way out of the situation would have been a metaphorical band-aid.

Not to say that's the wrong choice. Not at all. It's just not one that would have challenged me to explore my inner terrain further. It wouldn't have given me the opportunity to deepen my personal transformation.

Another reasonable option would be to pause and sew up the whole (if I had a needle and thread with me). That's also a reasonable option. If I pressed for time, that option would have challenged me to explore my inner relationship with time. I don't carry around a needle and thread in my wallet though. There are other options which have varying degrees of impact on our spiritual development.
For me though, the choice was obvious. I reached towards the back of my pants, found the hole…

And made it much MUCH larger. 🙂

It was an opportunity to answer a very simple question: If I make my situation more extreme, will my Inner Critic also get a little more vocal?

One of the best ways I know to deepen my spiritual transformation is to explore extreme situations (whenever it's safe to do so). Extreme situations pull us out of the familiar "Who I take myself to be" identity and give us an opportunity to become "somebody else." Not literally. Figuratively though, we get to explore the answer to my question "What if I stopped being myself?"

A few years ago, tearing my pants into a larger hole is something I'd have never done. My fears would have overwhelmed and incapacitated me. I'd probably have turned around and gone home. Not this day though. What I discovered was interesting. In addition to not caring about the hole at all, I had an unexpected experience: joy and delight.

Although my Inner Critic didn't have an opinion, my True Nature was clear:

Stepping outside my comfort zone…

Choosing to not be "myself" for a little while…
Brought me a sense of profound freedom.

The Truth walk

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

Truth WalkAs Morpheus says in The Matrix, “There’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.” This is the greatest challenge any of us have on the path of personal transformation. How do we live what we believe to be true?

The first step is fundamental to my teachings: Don’t take anybody’s word for it. Not even mine. Find out what is true for yourself.

Sure, it helps to have insights and pointers. Programs, videos, emails, audio interviews, live seminars, and so on are wonderful ways to get closer to people who have discovered the Truths that you want to embody. Still, all of those are… pointers. Only you can “walk” the path as Morpheus says.

With that in mind, here’s a quick exercise I call “The Truth Walk” to help you discover what is actually true for you. It’s rather simple, and you can do it anytime and every time you’re walking. Here’s how it works.

First, bring into your awareness a spiritual Truth or lesson you’d like to embody more fully. I think that Dan Millman’s “Laws of Spirit” and Deepak Chopra’s “7 Spiritual Laws of Success” (and “7 Spiritual Laws Of Superheros”) are excellent places to find a few key “lessons” or insights.

Once you have decided which Truth to explore more fully, bring it into your awareness. Then go for a walk. If possible, go for an extended walk. And ideally in nature. As you walk, feel your feet with each and every step.

Some people refer to this as a walking meditation. However, the twist is this:

Every time your attention fades away from the lesson you’re exploring, feel your feet stepping on the ground again. Then bring your awareness back to the lesson.

This exercise has a couple of wonderful benefits. The first is that you are practicing being more present and in your body. Since your body is the vehicle by which you live in this world, it’s also the means by which you discover the Truth of your experience. Your mind is powerful and can “know” the path. Your body is your lifeforce, and it’s how you “walk” the path.

(and quite literally in this example!)

The second major benefit of this exercise is this:

When you bring anything into your awareness long enough, and you infuse it with your physical experience, the Truth will reveal itself to you naturally. Maybe you’ll discover that Dan Millman and Deepak Chopra are totally full of crap! 🙂 Or maybe you’ll transform your life faster than they did, simply because you are benefiting from them sharing their experience with you.

Whatever you discover, it’ll be true for you. And that’s what matters most because when we get right down to it, you’re the one who has to live with yourself twenty-four hours per day, seven days per week… for the rest of your life.

A Spiritual Perspective On ‘A Reason, A Season, Or A Lifetime’

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

 A Reason, A Season, or a Lifetime

Below is a slightly modified passage which has always resonated with me because it illustrates the significance of understanding and accepting that people come into our lives for different purposes and for differing amounts of time. When we become still and tune into our intuition, we gain insight into the nature of those reasons and how we might embrace these peoples’ presence in our life more fully.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

“When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid spiritual foundation. Your challenge is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.”

Many times our attachments to people cause us pain while we lose sight of what relationships are really about – being together, enjoying, growing, nurturing… connecting. This passage guides us towards viewing relationships more holistically and to embrace what IS here and now.

For example, if we knew that a person were only to be in our life for a few hours, but that in those hours we would learn a great life altering lesson, then we can more fully embrace those moments with them. Mourning the time we can’t spend with them will be irrelevant because the only time we’re not with them is in our past or future… which are both nothing more than reference points that exist only in our mind. Yet, the future (and our future memories of this past) will be one which is brightened because of the positive influence that person has had on our life.

But what if that relationship, no matter how brief, is a painful one? How can we embrace that pain which we view as “bad” or “negative”? Again, there is a lesson to be learned in knowing this person is in our life for a specific reason. We may want to push this pain away, even to wish it never happened; however, when we are able to fully understand and realize the reason why we feel this pain then we will learn a great lesson that will have a profoundly amazing influence on our life for all future moments.

If we knew a person were to be in our life for a few years and yet their only purpose in our life was to share joy and love, then we would be able to more fully embrace this experience knowing that its purpose is for exactly that – to share the beauty of life. Again the past fades away, the present is joyous, and the future is full of the love we carry forward from our experience with that person.

Even in lifetime relationships, the message is for us to embrace the moment we are in as a springboard to enable us to more fully embrace future moments as well. Some of these moments can be very challenging, but those relationships which challenge us the most also provide the greatest opportunity for growth, for happiness, and ultimately to experience lasting peace within ourselves.

We are then able to see that regardless of the immediate reason a person comes into our life, we are presented an opportunity. It is an opportunity which we can enjoy and learn from, or we can attach to it and bring ourselves unnecessary pain and suffering when that person is no longer present in our lives. The choice is always yours.

To understand more fully what I mean when I say the choice is yours, take a break for two minutes. During this time, close your eyes and focus your attention into feeling your belly as you breathe in and out. Then ask yourself this question:

How might I be positively influenced if I believe that relationships are temporary and exist for specific reasons that help aid in my emotional and spiritual growth?

“I feel like a failure” – A Successful Dentist’s True Story

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Free Spiritual Gifts

Today I have a story for you…

  Feeling like a failure

For decades, a highly successful dentist lived in what seemed to be a paradoxical way. You see, despite all of his success as a dentist, he was an extreme introvert and lacked confidence. This man felt like he lacked a “reason to live.”

Not only that, he was discouraged with being a dentist, and he was totally unaware of his most important values, passions, gifts, and life-purpose.

In other words, this highly successful dentist felt like a total failure…

And he wanted to do something about it. He realized that he had the choice either to remain a victim and continue feeling sorry for himself –or– he could take responsibility for his life. He decided to hire a life coach and immerse himself in the process of personal development.

During the decade that followed, he discovered talents for writing, teaching, and coaching, that he never realized he had. And contrary to the previous 34 years of feeling like a failure, he declared a renewed life purpose:

“To be an inspiration to himself and others.”

That was decades ago…

Now, Dr. Joe Rubino is the CEO of The Center for Personal Reinvention and has a renewed mission…

“To raise the self-esteem of 20 million people”

  Dr. Joe Rubino from the Center for Personal Reinvention

Yes, that’s right – little feeling-sorry-for-himself dentist Joe went from thinking of himself as a total failure to becoming one of the world’s leading experts on the topic of self-esteem.

Dr. Joe Rubino is now a best selling author of 9 books (including a children’s book that is being made into a movie!) and 2 audio sets, an acclaimed speaker, course leader, and just an all around great guy. 🙂

Joe has been so kind and supportive to me since we’ve known one another, and today I’m grateful to “pay it forward” (if you’ve seen the movie, you know what I’m talking about) and support him in his mission to reach 20 million people.

Today I share with you his complimentary audio “7 Steps to Soaring Self Esteem.”

Click here to download it

And did you know that most of us have some form of self-esteem challenge?

(actually, rumor has it roughly 85% of all people do)

In many cases, it can be so subtle we’re not even consciously aware of it. Frankly speaking, no matter how much success I have, no matter how much confidence and self-esteem I know I have, this is one area I regularly discover some new way in which I silently and unconsciously sabotage myself.

The thing is, when it comes to personal development, I believe that nothing is more important than having a solid foundation of self-esteem. The reason is because our self-esteem gives us a foundation, it gives us the courage to explore ourselves and the world we live in.

Without self-esteem, we will consciously (or unconsciously) run into some of these challenges

  • Think of ourselves as a failure
  • Feel frustrated or angry more often than we want to be
  • Experience nervousness or shyness
  • Make decisions that aren’t for our highest good
  • Lack a feeling of fulfillment in our lives
  • Or notice that sometimes we are indecisive

As you can see, not all self-esteem issues are the big “I feel like a failure” kind. Some of them are quiet self-saboteurs… kind of like a small ache we forget is there because we “get used to it.” Unfortunately, all of them sabotage our best efforts at empowering ourselves.

If you haven’t already listened to Joe’s free audio, then click the link below now to get it:

“7 Steps to Soaring Self Esteem”

But spiritual people don’t play poker!

Written by Chris Cade on . Posted in Spiritual Development

A couple of years ago I was at a satsang with Adyashanti and somebody asked him what he does for enjoyment. His answer: “Sometimes I like to ride my motorcycle or play poker with my friends and take their money.”

In that moment, I felt a lot less alone. For several years, I played poker with the same group on Monday nights. Over those years I’ve grown in many ways, but that hasn’t changed that I really enjoy the dynamics of a good poker game. What has changed is the place I come from while playing poker.

I get a lot less caught up in the ego aspects of the game, and instead tend to be more present and aware of just enjoying the moment. Enjoying the way the money shifts around to different people on the table, enjoying the flow of energy involved with that and observing how people act and react in different situations that arise during the game. What I enjoy most though, is that every now and then there arises a ‘perfect’ moment that is only possible by my non-attachment to winning.

Why play poker if not to win?

My ideal poker game is one in which there are a lot of highs and lows, a lot of wins and losses, and in the end everybody walks away with close to what they started with. It doesn’t always work out that way… sometimes I win a couple hundred dollars or lose a couple hundred dollars, most of the time it’s closer to about +/- $20. Back to the point, though.

Last year I was playing with a relatively new group and with only a $20 initial buyin, and after a few hours of play I was already profiting about $250. I’m not entirely sure what happened, but somehow I merged with the moment… in an indescribable unity where I was not separate from anybody else or anything else. In that moment, I made a $150 bet that put two of the other players to the test… to make a very hard decision.

The thing is, I wasn’t thinking during any of this. I was playing mindlessly… and though that might explain why I lost the $150, what it also helps bring to light is that it is possible to be engaged in mind-based activities yet without using the mind. Playing poker, for me, has become a lot more intuitive-based. I think a lot less about the plays I make, and sometimes I don’t even think at all.

It is in this space of non-thinking… this complete open space combined with a nothingness… that joy arises from. Had I been attached to winning that hand (there was about $400-$500 in the pot including other players), I would have been quite upset about losing. However, I wasn’t upset. In fact, I felt a great amount of gratitude that I could witness somebody else derive such pleasure from winning that hand.

It wasn’t until I was driving home after the game that I realized I had been experiencing joy in that moment. Generally speaking, most people are unaware when they are truly ‘in the moment’ because it is a combination of that nothingness and complete spaciousness without thought (so without thinking, they don’t ‘know’ they’re experiencing joy in the moment). I certainly didn’t realize it until I was driving home later that night and I reflected on the evening.

People often have a misconception that joy and happiness are the same thing, yet in that experience I was clearly shown this is not the case. Joy is a state of being that is underneath any emotional experience we can have, and therefore it is possible to be both joyous and happy, as well as joyous and deeply sorrowful. Joy does not exclude any emotion, but rather, it includes all of them without attachment nor exception.

P.S. If you’d like to explore joy more fully, be sure to check out my friend Apryl Jenson’s websites and She focuses a lot on empowering ourselves to experience more joy in our everyday lives.

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